DEPRESSION,BLUES,DARK IDEAS,,,,PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP,SOON,PLEASE

[tsmithae]

Pain, oxy, and the trials of workers comp can do horrible things to a person. Being in pain alone is a terrible thing amd sode effects of oxy include depression, I know that when I was on it I got terribly depressed and had similar thoughts but am very glad I didn't. During that time o had 3 surgeries and was in and out of PT for 2 years.  I also understand the lack of a support group.  Please, if you need a support group, reach out to us. 

[djcarguy]

    WELL ,DEEP SUBJECT MAYBEEE,HAHA..
  Closing in on a yr with this tread an winter rolling around to usa again  an them canucks in the great white out back..  hope ya guys are taking care out there an living an enjoying something in life..  all my best an hangin with the funny an sometime not crowd here,take care,,oookkk..


      i worked up too high dose meds,got past the headaches an foggy feeling. trying to plan an focus on good an better for next yr. did send ee to get ball rolling on a nose cone will see how it goes.
   this time of yr is hard for me,both my marriages went off deadmans curve round labor day,fall time of yr. an Oct 7 was annivary of dad passing,6 yrs now but more clear an focusest this yr it seemed worse. with rain an clouds got all moody an fell off the wagon. that bottle of rum had been unopened from x-mas. . knowing i was on meds an having had real bad reactions before i did keep it to a few drinks but then few hrs later went to the bar to get some food in gut,did tell them not to serve me as allready in a bad mood an place. ate watched some tv and got home safe an sound with few more drinks in following days now nothing for a week. been sick with head cold an flem cough for that week ,   body pay back at my age??

   well turned 100 days on here in 3 years an 1000 some post. think this site has help me keep on going several bad nites with the bad times last few yrs? thanks to site an ya guys,,take care and reach out an an stick aroung. lattter DJ  

[JB400]

Hopefully, this year will be better than years past.  But, that's only if you want it to be.  I'm sure it's hard, but keep yourself busy and don't go down memory lane.  Take the scenic route instead.

Cheer up good buddy, we're here for you

[djcarguy]

Howdy heres hoping all are well an staying warm.   Well heres to a good turkeyday  for all the humans,, sorry birds not going to bee a great day for our feathered friends,but you will taste good and get lots of attension on turkeyday,ha ha hah..

       just a note to say hello and hoping for the best for us all this week an season. so please take care an have a safe an good day. eat an drink an enjoy , but dont let the bird kick your arss,,,, an easy on the drinks if meds or stress are invalved.. like family ,,wife ,, inlaws,,, outlaws an kids,,take care out there driving toooooooo>./...


     well happy holiday an beeee good or at least   VERY Careful   you alls..  sincerely DJ out west..

ps if ya need ta chat send a ee or pm my info on profile,toooo .looks like i wiill bee home this yr.lattttttteeerrrrrr  dj

[djcarguy]

Take above post,change turkey day to Christmas  an new years------AN HAVE A GOOD AN SAFE SEASON?

[djcarguy]

DEPRESSION, OR WINTER BLUES AND SAD TIME THAT LAST,,, PLEASE ASK DOC AND FAMILY OR FRIENDS FOR HELP.


  THIS HAS BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT THIS LAST WEEK . IF YOU ARE FEELING DOWN AND SAD,PLEASE REACH OUT.


 I HAVE LOST FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND BEEN THRU THIS FOR YEARS MYSELF 30 SOME. NOW MEDS LAST 16 YRS.

   PLEASE FOR GOD SAKE ,AND IF ANY DARK IDEAS OR MOODS LAST REACH OUT FOR HELP. THE MIND IS THICKY AND WE CAN NOT JUST WILL THINGS BETTER,OR JUST SNAP OUT OF IT.


         SO PLEASE ASK AND GET HELP ,AND THINGS CAN GET BETTER.   I  AM VERY CONCERNED LATLY BOUT THIS AND THE TIMES AND STRESSES PEOPLE ARE DEALING WITH,THESE DAYS... OK TO PM ME IF YOU DONT WANT TO REPLY IN OPEN ,ITS OK.LATTTER DAVID J    WE CAN ALL USE A FRIEND OR HAND SOMETIMES :

[Bobs69]

Today is the first official day of winter.  The shortest day for sunlight of the year.  The days will get longer and brighter from here on out.

It's been rough on me this year too!

[tsmithae]

I am personally looking forward to '14 very much,  '13 has been less than ideal.  I hope the next year treats everyone here well.   

[mrsskip68]

Hey guys and gals dealing with this topic of stress and depression..Skip and I love you all and truely appreciate your friendships! Many blessing and strength sent to you all! If you believe, .......truely believe things will get better, they will! Be pro-active, not,re-active! PM either of us and we would be glad to talk! Happy Holidays. Be safe!

[Fred]

Hey guys and gals dealing with this topic of stress and depression..Skip and I love you all and truely appreciate your friendships! Many blessing and strength sent to you all! If you believe, .......truely believe things will get better, they will! Be pro-active, not,re-active! PM either of us and we would be glad to talk! Happy Holidays. Be safe!

Can we just drop in instead?   

[JB400]

Do you have bunk beds?

[Fred]

Do you have bunk beds?

They don't need them, I'm happy to share.   

[Mopar Nut]

Do you have bunk beds?

They don't need them, I'm happy to share.   

Ok, i'm in again.

[Fred]

Do you have bunk beds?

They don't need them, I'm happy to share.  

Ok, i'm in again.

Ooh!........I knew I could count on you.  

[JB400]

Do you have bunk beds?

They don't need them, I'm happy to share.  

Ok, i'm in again.

Ooh!........can't wait.  But I've reserved the middle.  

I call the top.  I just won't drink too much water before going to bed

[Mopar Nut]

Do you have bunk beds?

They don't need them, I'm happy to share.  

Ok, i'm in again.

Ooh!........can't wait.  But I've reserved the middle.  

I call the top.  I just won't drink too much water before going to bed

Ok

[Big Sugar]

Just want to make a shout out to all of you on this thread and especially Dj.   Dj was the first person I ever shared my depression with, no one around me knew the depths to which I was falling and the bleakness that was holding me .
Steve Shirley's untimely passing was the trigger for me, he left us when I was at a very low point and after a  few discusdions about depression with a few other forum members I reached out to Dj and finally opened up about my depression.....
Since then Ive shared my feelings with my family and others who also suffer.
I feel great these days, this season has always been tough on me but its much better now. i feel much more alive.

Cheers everone !  Share your feelings

Merry Christmas

Cheers Dj. 

[Drache]

I think it's hard for the average person to know what depression is like and the depths of it. There is depression from losing a loved one or child and there is depression that can seem minor in any given day but when you deal with it every day for years the pressure builds. Some people look at someone who is depressed as weak or an embarrassment which can cause that person even more depression. It's a slippery road and not the easiest to deal with. Here in Canada if you are clinically depressed you cannot own firearms, certain jobs cannot hire you, etc. Really tough for people to want to go find professional help when your entire way of life might be changed.

[Fred]

I think it's hard for the average person to know what depression is like and the depths of it. There is depression from losing a loved one or child and there is depression that can seem minor in any given day but when you deal with it every day for years the pressure builds. Some people look at someone who is depressed as weak or an embarrassment which can cause that person even more depression. It's a slippery road and not the easiest to deal with. Here in Canada if you are clinically depressed you cannot own firearms, certain jobs cannot hire you, etc. Really tough for people to want to go find professional help when your entire way of life might be changed.

Personally I think some of us turn away not because we think people suffering from depression are weak or embarrassing but because we don't know how to help.....what to say or what to do without seeming condescending.  And besides, what advice or reassurance can you give when you personally have never experienced depression.  All I can be is compassionate.

Just want to make a shout out to all of you on this thread and especially Dj.   Dj was the first person I ever shared my depression with, no one around me knew the depths to which I was falling and the bleakness that was holding me .
Steve Shirley's untimely passing was the trigger for me, he left us when I was at a very low point and after a  few discusdions about depression with a few other forum members I reached out to Dj and finally opened up about my depression.....
Since then Ive shared my feelings with my family and others who also suffer.
I feel great these days, this season has always been tough on me but its much better now. i feel much more alive.

Cheers everone !  Share your feelings

Merry Christmas

Cheers Dj.  

I'm so pleased for you Ron.  

[Drache]

Well people say the best step to getting through it is to talk about it so here it goes and I don't care who believes any of this or not.

Near the end of November (thought it was the start of December but looked back in my journal) my fiance left me and the very next day I lost my job. The day after that I lost my apartment. I've been battling with depression off and on for many years. But after this, I snapped. I tried to take my own life two days later (I won't say how openly so if you really want to know message me). For my troubles I earned a RCMP escort to QUESST which is a mini psych ward type of place in the local hospital. I was there for a couple days under observation. During the time the RCMP went and confiscated my firearms.

I got out of QUESST and all my friends had stopped talking to me. Wouldn't answer texts or phone messages. They were upset about what I tried to do and didn't want to deal with me. I left town with my SUV loaded with whatever I could fit into it (left a lot of furniture behind) the day after.

It's hard fighting depression. People ask you how you are doing and you want to lie. No one really wants to know that you're still depressed. The few times I've told people how I really was feeling, they didn't know what to say or do. So they generally replied "Get better soon" and then changed the subject.

[Big Sugar]

Its hard to reach out to someone who does not understand , its a real heavy sense of rejection and it puts you right back where were.....in the pit of life.
   Reaching out to someone here will definatly  find you a common soul. And it will help you see things a little more clearly. 
all I can say is stay away from the drink and drugs, stay focused on positive thoughts and positive people.


Ron

[Fred]

Well people say the best step to getting through it is to talk about it so here it goes and I don't care who believes any of this or not.

Near the end of November (thought it was the start of December but looked back in my journal) my fiance left me and the very next day I lost my job. The day after that I lost my apartment. I've been battling with depression off and on for many years. But after this, I snapped. I tried to take my own life two days later (I won't say how openly so if you really want to know message me). For my troubles I earned a RCMP escort to QUESST which is a mini psych ward type of place in the local hospital. I was there for a couple days under observation. During the time the RCMP went and confiscated my firearms.

I got out of QUESST and all my friends had stopped talking to me. Wouldn't answer texts or phone messages. They were upset about what I tried to do and didn't want to deal with me. I left town with my SUV loaded with whatever I could fit into it (left a lot of furniture behind) the day after.

It's hard fighting depression. People ask you how you are doing and you want to lie. No one really wants to know that you're still depressed. The few times I've told people how I really was feeling, they didn't know what to say or do. So they generally replied "Get better soon" and then changed the subject.

Sorry to hear this Drache,  I sure wouldn't have remarked on your forgotten Christmas presents had I known. I thought it was just some unfortunate over sight on their part. Was it? Or was it deliberate? You say you left town, are you not getting any support from family?  Having to deal with it on your own has got to be very hard. Stay strong if for no one else but yourself. And know that we're all here for you should you need us.

[Drache]

Sorry to hear this Drache,  I sure wouldn't have remarked on your forgotten Christmas presents had I known. I thought it was just some unfortunate over sight on their part. Was it? Or was it deliberate? You say you left town, are you not getting any support from family?  Having to deal with it on your own has got to be very hard. Stay strong if for no one else but yourself. And know that we're all here for you should you need us.

No worries Fred. Like I said it hurt a little at the time but I was over it, that's why I posted about it. 

[JB400]

At least when it seems your at your lowest, things can only get better.  And usually, they do.  Stay strong, stay positive.

[Ponch ®]

no useful advise from me, but i must say - it takes a lot of cojones for you guys to share this stuff with others.