I don't know what to do, say, or think

[Old Moparz]

[terrible one]

LMFAO 

[Mike DC]

Sorry the whole thing happened. 

Losing a child hurts like hell.  It just feels like such a violation of everything, like sometimes it feels worse than if the person had lived longer first (whether there's any logic in that emotion or not). 


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I don't even remember what all was said on the other thread, but I agree that this situation sounds bad.


It's easy for uninvolved guys like us to hear one side of it, and then proclaim judgment on her & all her actions (towards our buddy).  I'm sure we don't even know 10% of what there is to know here.

We may be all wrong in criticizing her for wanting to "use you" and "ride the gravy train."  She may never have wanted things to work out that way and she may have had the best intentions for being with you.  Or she may just not have ever sorted out her own feelings herself. 



But IMHO the end results look almost exactly the same as if she DID just intend to callously try to use you for a free ride.  And to me, that is all that really matters. 



Sometimes I think people are born with good intentions just so we'll forgive them when they do the bad things.  It's messed up, but I think you can sometimes get burned a lot worse by a toxic person that MEANS WELL than by a flat-out worthless bitch.  You can certainly get burned more times in a row with the one that means well. 

Well-meaning toxic people are easier to forgive than people with bad intentions, but the final result isn't always different enough.  A life with the former type just isn't different ENOUGH  from a life with the latter. 

[TK73]

If you want real advice and opinions, I will help give it to you. The advice and words of encouragement you have gotten so far are not helping your situation. They are nice to hear, but not helping.

1. There's more to this mess than any of us will ever know.

2. Stop revolving your life around this broad. It sounds like you feel she is the beginning and end to your love life. That's not true. She is just another chapter in your life that clearly needs to end. There's a better life out there, the hard part is believing it, but it is true.

3. Quitting your job??? WTF!!! That's some serious BS right there. Are you telling me you just walked out of your job because you "assumed" this girl needed you by her side? I guess we now know she really only wanted to use you when it benefits her.

4. Forwarding your emails to another guy (who also had sex with her)?? Again, more to this story than we will ever know.

5. From what little I have heard about this girl, she sounds like a flat out bitch and knows she had a gravy train (You) just waiting for her every time she needs a boost.

Stop with the Bitch-Ass-Ness and MOVE ON! You are one step away from being a Maury Povich or Jerry Springer guest. It's embarrassing to see you get played the way you are. Reality is, this chick will never change her ways. If you somehow stay with her (or if she even wants you), sooner or later she will leave you, or let another dude in your bed.

Oh... 

YEP!!

[TK73]

She's gone.

All of her problems are gone with her.

Never contact her again.

Never allow her to contact you again.

Change the locks.

Block her e-mail.

Get a new phone number.

Burn all bridges between the two of you.

If she has belongings at your place UPS them to her or take them to goodwill.

If she has some of your belongings write them off as a cheap lesson.

She's poison and she will kill you.

Good riddance.

Done these a few times!!

[Daytona R/T SE]

She's gone.

All of her problems are gone with her.

Never contact her again.

Never allow her to contact you again.

Change the locks.

Block her e-mail.

Get a new phone number.

Burn all bridges between the two of you.

If she has belongings at your place UPS them to her or take them to goodwill.

If she has some of your belongings write them off as a cheap lesson.

She's poison and she will kill you.

Good riddance.

Done these a few times!!

Yep!

[Charger74]

Drache, Please listen to these posts.  I have been in way to many relationships that where somewhat similiar to yours.  I had to learn the hard way that I was too nice of a person and got played way to many times and got seriously screwed financially because of one of them.   I finally had to move 1500 miles away from everything I knew just to make sure it didn't happen to me again.  And believe me, I don't regret it one bit.  I finally found someone great who I married and have a beautiful little girl with that is mine and not someone elses.    Trust me, you don't want to be in a relationship like this with someone who's kid isn't yours...

[NHCharger]

[The70RT]

Yeah like everyone else is saying...let it go.  If you ever want to have a family it doesn't sound like she can give you one anyway.

[TK73]

Remember: there's 50 ways to leave this looser...

[dodgecharger-fan]

She's gone.

All of her problems are gone with her.

Never contact her again.

Never allow her to contact you again.

Change the locks.

Block her e-mail.

Get a new phone number.

Burn all bridges between the two of you.

If she has belongings at your place UPS them to her or take them to goodwill.

If she has some of your belongings write them off as a cheap lesson.

She's poison and she will kill you.

Good riddance.

Done these a few times!!

Yep!

Me too.

I think I posted about the whole kids aspect in the other thread. I know I wrote it, but I may not have clicked submit thinking it was TMI... that kid aspect can be great even in this scenario, but the relationship has to be there first.

That said, this girl is trouble.
You do not owe her anything and she's obviously not concerned about you.

Cut bait. NOW.
Now that she realizes that she doesn't need someone to take care of her and the baby, I think she's done just that, cut bait.

Don't look back and don't let it get to you. It'll only mess you up when you meet someone else.
I know it sounds cold but I hate to think what life would be like if the baby was born and the relationship didn't last.

[1969chargerrtse]

       Geez. 

[The70RT]

Your not responding......don't tell us shes back again   

[skip68]

If she is back, I say let her read this.   

[Brock Samson]

is she having puter problems?.. 

[2Gunz]

Well to me HONESTY and TRUST are the two most important things in a relationship.

Without that you have NOTHING, never will.

And I realize there are volumes we have no clue about..... but to me it looks like you
have nothing.


And Im going to give you some advice........

NICE GUYS FINISH LAST
(with women anyway) - end of story

Took me 30 years to figure that out.

Ive been used, abused, cheated on and generally treated like shit.


Ive changed, I dont put up with the crap I used to.
Its a hard habit to break but once you start it you will see what I mean.

NOTHING gets a woman like WTF ever dont let the door hit you in the ass.

Sure you lose some with that, but the ones that stay respect you.

Women in the end want a MAN, not a dog.



Lose her, shes a waste of time.

[The70RT]

Everyone needs to lay off. He PM me so I guess were done here. I just thought he needed some opinions.... Im done. Sorry Kyle.

is she having puter problems?..

Maybe so Brock  http://www.dodgecharger.com/forum/index.php/topic,48386.msg528159.html#msg528159

[Drache]

Ok for christ sakes everyone can now just lay the fuck off! Things were working fine up until this point and now that it has happened yeah she's gone and not coming back. I don't need people telling me that they told me so in the last message. I had it deleted for all the bullshit. I don't really blame her for acting like this she just went through a big loss, but that doesn't fully excuse her actions.

No she isn't the one having computer problems!

So someone delete this fucking thread!

[Chris G.]

So someone delete this fucking thread!

I'll lock it, but I'll leave it up to someone else to move.

I am getting tired of you ranting and telling us to delete threads when it doesn't go favorably for you. Take your lumps like a man. Stop being a child. You decided to bring us into your personal crap. Maybe next time you should think about what you want to publicly post.