WELL, MY PERVERTED NEIGHBOR IS DEAD.

[Brass]

Thanks Rich and everyone else.  I'm glad I pursued this to the end but I'm not feeling good about the outcome at all.   The next couple weeks family members will be coming and have come to get the house packed and move the mom and kids.   Seeing them look over at my house bothers me and makes me feel that they blame me or think I'm partially responsible for him killing himself.   I don't know how much of the truth any of them know. 

Looking is natural.  My guess is they are processing, not necessarily blaming.  I'd let them do it and move on.  No one in their right mind could blame you, and you can't really reason with anyone not in their right mind anyway.  Confronting them with pictures probably won't help.  They may come to terms with what happened on their own.  Those that need a little more help might approach you.  But I'd let them decide that.

[bull]

It's pretty typical in these types of situations for the family to blame the person or group that identified the problem and was willing to stand up and do something about it. As the saying goes, if you identify the problem you become the problem. Usually it falls on a "black sheep" member of a family, the one who doesn't play along with the enablers who hide the abuser and make excuses for him. By killing himself this offender took one last shot at his family and you. He lost control of the situation and so now he's punishing everyone for it. Essentially he didn't like the outcome of the game so he took his ball and went home.

Don't fall for this psychotic BS. He made his bed and had to lie in it. All you did was turn the light on. What he was doing when the room lit up is on him and those who allowed it to continue.

[FlatbackFanatic]

  You did the right thing Skip. Its too bad that more people don't do the right thing. If he wasn't found out, he could
of done something to those girls or yours or your other neighbors.

[Bob T]

You did the right thing Skip. Its too bad that more people don't do the right thing. If he wasn't found out, he could
of done something to those girls or yours or your other neighbors.

Absolutely.
His choice was to do what he did over a long period of time before he topped himself.
Your choice was to do something about it without sitting on the information that you had, you did the right thing and his Family, your Family and society in general are better off for it.
My neighbour was getting beat up by her son one night and I went over and stopped it, bit of fallout after that but couldn't live with the conscience if I didn't do anything.

[69DAYTONASE]

Skip, you absolutely did the right thing. Not on you that he ofted himself, that, like his pervert crap, is(was) on him....his decision, and not surprisingly, a bad one.

[skip68]

Well today is way better.   The uncle of the kids came over to the fence to talk to me.   He said I did the only thing I could and the right thing.  He said he would've done the same.   He told me that the pervert shot himself at his mother's house and his mother was the one that found him.       

He also said that the grandmother (perverts wife's mother) told him to be sure to thank me for looking out for her girls.   I feel much more at ease knowing that family members are siding with me and not upset with me.   
The mother of the kids is still in her shell the uncle said.   I thanked the uncle and told him I haven't felt good about this for quite awhile and it meant alot to me.     

[stripedelete]

You did the right thing.  It had tough outcome.  If you didn't have some kind of knot in your stomach your humanity would be in question.

[bull]

Seems like the right thing is rarely the easy thing.

[Patronus]

The choice to do nothing has consequences.

[nvrbdn]

first as stated, you did right.  second is that he probably didn't want to face what happens to perverts in prison.  and most important is that he didn't decide to take people with him in his time of grief.

   you two are honest upstanding people trying to bring a family up in a decent neighborhood. you were right to protect the innocent young life's he was preying on. I appreciate people like you that don't turn their heads in fear of getting involved. Thanks for caring.

[Stretch]

Skip, Take comport in knowing you did he right thing in a situation where most fathers (me included) would likely have let there  emotions take over and make a snap decision that would destroy more lives than the ones in this mans family. You likely stopped him from going farther than looking in windows. Who knows what demons were loose in his mind and what would have come next once he built up the courage to jump in deeper than he already had.

The fact that the uncle came over and talked to you shows that they know deep down you did the only thing you could do. Protect your family! You are human so you have human feelings and second thoughts about how this all ended is to be expected. Hug your daughter, Hug your wife, and let your hart work through all of this. You stepped up and stopped a monster. Most people would have looked the other way or taken things into their own hands. Nether of which would have been the right way to go about this.

You did the right thing. Take comport in knowing that and take comport in knowing that every damn one of us on this board are proud of you.

Jason

[c00nhunterjoe]

You did the right thing. He may have been a pervet for now, but eventually he may have progressed to much much worse, you very well may have saved kids lives.