Ever get a surprise call from the "ex"?

[Ram07]

Get through a clean divorce, she won, got everything....didnt care, just stuff. Get a little cash saved up, then, bam...I now owe more money....really...wtf!
Guess I should just cough it up(outta the car fund) and be done with it....if I hire a lawyer, well will just cost me more!
Really sucks, she make 3x as much as I do  ....just sayin!

[TruckDriver]

Gee... I hope you don't have my ex. Sounds like it

[Ram07]

She got a 6 bedroom house on the lake, on a couple of acres...very cool sauna(thats all I miss about the place)...everything in the house, my boats, plow truck, and so on....I move to a one bedroom appt. bought everything to fill it, but yeah, still owe more! Time to start selling blood I think!

[Silver R/T]

Got any kids with her?

[Ram07]

Only one left at home, my 17 yr old daughter, we share...one week here, one week with her

[Back N Black]

How can one person get everything and the other get nothing?? 

[Tilar]

One had a good lawyer.

[autodynamics]

And then you wonder why people try and kill their spouses

[JB400]

One just had enough of the bs

[Tilar]

Get through a clean divorce, she won, got everything....didnt care, just stuff. Get a little cash saved up, then, bam...I now owe more money....really...wtf!
Guess I should just cough it up(outta the car fund) and be done with it....if I hire a lawyer, well will just cost me more!
Really sucks, she make 3x as much as I do  ....just sayin!

My best friend is going through this exact same thing. His ex-wife still owes him money from  a 401K but she's taking him back to court which will basically give her 2 months worth of child support because the last kid will be 18 come May.

And then you wonder why people try and kill their spouses

I don't wonder at all, and sometimes wonder if maybe "They needed killing" shouldn't be a legal defense.

[Ram07]

There was no lawyers involved with me, she wanted the house, she got it....I walked away(with no debt), was friendly...I had to start from scratch, but did keep my retirement fund, now just dealing with repairs to that house that need done...sucks to me be...i'm the guy who fixed it, so seems like i have to pay!

[Mytur Binsdirti]

It really is cheaper to keep 'er.   

[Ram07]

I would have not got along with her new b/f! Don't care to share!

[TheGhost]

I would have not got along with her new b/f! Don't care to share!

It's a messed up system when the person who breaks the wedding vows ends up with everything.

[AKcharger]

Could try and be nice and take her on vacation to Somalia, Syria or someplace like that and get her an America flag Tee Shirt to wear?

[1970Moparmann]

Tell her to F off.  She got enough of your hard earned money with the crap you let her have.

[Indygenerallee]

It was said best by a wise man by the name of Jerry Reed "She got the gold mine, I got the shaft!"

[chargerman69]

My buddy is going throw a dv and she wants half the house 4room 2 bath so $150k, half of everthing and her car that he paid for and he's got nice chevy truck and 69 chevy caprice in the shop ready for paint she wants him pay the 3k to finish so she can take it to, wants have half his pension and the camper trailer, she's on her third affair in last 10years and still on the third right now, she's post have moved out last week with the youngest boy but won't leave till she gets least half the money, they got 4 boys, 12-15-17-19 she tells them it's only fair that she gets half like hell she should all she should get is a one way ticket out of here.

[Kern Dog]

Six years after the fat bitch left, I heard the doorbell ringing as I was getting out of the shower one day. looking out the peephole, I saw the rotund skank walking away from the door.
I don't know what the broad wanted. She got her share years ago and I didn't keep much food at the house.

[AKcharger]

...I didn't keep much food at the house.

[JB400]

Best law provision made for a man was a prenuptial.  If she won't commit to a prenup, there isn't a need to commit to her.  Everything she has to offer, a guy can get from another woman.

[Silver R/T]

Seems like prenup is way to go these days.

[djcarguy]

I would have not got along with her new b/f! Don't care to share!

It's a messed up system when the person who breaks the wedding vows ends up with everything.

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[Silver R/T]

[b5blue]

  I did my divorce "Do it yourself" style. (We didn't have much as she never worked much.) All I basically wanted was A: Never less than 50% custody of my 3 kids B: My Charger C: My clothes and tools (For work.) Family Law will help you file and most info is on the web. I handled all matters legal since then also.
  File a motion for appeal at the local court and get this in front of a Judge. (NOT a court appointed "Magistrate" who is just a wanna be.)
  Explain on the filing and to the Judge at the hearing that her demands are excessive and unnecessary. It will greatly help your point to file and show up on your own showing you gave not her, but all for the care of your children and that she is mismanaging her responsibility. Continue to appeal any further demands, the courts care about the children and their ongoing care from you both, present yourself as a concerned father not a pissed off ex husband. You can PM me if you want to go into details. b5   

[2Gunz]

Get through a clean divorce, she won, got everything....didnt care, just stuff. Get a little cash saved up, then, bam...I now owe more money....really...wtf!
Guess I should just cough it up(outta the car fund) and be done with it....if I hire a lawyer, well will just cost me more!
Really sucks, she make 3x as much as I do  ....just sayin!

Im thinking you should spend a $100 and see what a lawyer has to say.

Its nice that you took the high road.  But Nice doesn't pay the rent.

Know whats really nice? Take every Fu%&^*ing thing you can, so you can be nice as YOU see fit.

Ive had a couple friends do the "nice" thing. And now they wish they didnt.


Good luck!

[Tilar]

Its nice that you took the high road.  But Nice doesn't pay the rent.



Good luck!

  Exactly. "Nice" is nothing more than a "feel good", and that doesn't last long.

[Ram07]

Well, guess I was nice, she got the house with everything in it, but also all the bills! I left with my clothes and my truck, but my retirement fund intact, what money I had, we had separate accounts, and 50/50 on the daughter.
I offered to pay 1/2 of what needs done, after all my daughter lives in that house 50% of the time!

That's the last she gets from me!

[nh_mopar_fan]

In my experience, a call from the "ex" was rarely good news.

[ACUDANUT]

Marriage is "overpriced prostitution"

[hawkeye]

like rodney dangerfield always said  "i'm not going to get married again.  every ten years i'm just going to go out, find a woman i hate and buy her a house."

[Tilar]

   I've actually said that before.

[Old Moparz]

Bummer to hear bad news like this, sorry. I'm glad I married who I did, & don't see a divorce in our future. Been with my wife since 1985 when we started dating, & married in 1995. I have seen quite a few of my friends divorced over the years during that time, but only one of them was the type that deserved to be shafted by the ex & actually wasn't. Most ended pretty civil, or seemed that way.

[polywideblock]

separated 5 years,she lives at other end of country! 3 months after i inherit she's on the phone demanding money! going through court now . don't "do the right thing" it'll get you nowhere.  make it final pay the lawyer

[djcarguy]

Marriage is "overpriced prostitution"

    calls from ex ,girlfriends can bee a good or bad surprize if its less than 9 months,hahaha.  but ex girl friends will atleast try to screw thier way back into your life and wallet..  WHERE EX WIFE JUST CALL TO DEMAND MORE MONEY OR TOO CHANGE AND SCREW UP YOUR TIME WITH KIDS.

   MY DAMN EX WOOD CALL AND WANT TO TALK AND WORK THINGS OUT,WHEN SHE HEARD I HAD A NEW AND BLONDE GIRLFRIEND. TWICE SHE DID THE OLD I MADE A MISTAKE AND FOR THE KIDS CAN WE GET TOGETHER AND WORK IT OUT. IN A WEEK OR TWO ,WHEN I BROKE IT OFF WITH NEW ONE SHE WOOD START THE SAME OLD ,I NEED TIME AND SPACE TO THINK THINGS OUT.. HAVE TA KICK THEM TOO THE CURB AND BACK UP TO MAKE SURE YA DID IT PROPER,HAHAHAHA,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,HO,HOHO,HOE.......       

      GOOD LUCK TA YA,,GET A LAWYER FOR MONEY AND VISITATION RULES SET IN STONE,,LIKE NO MOVING KID AWAY FROM YOU??                            HAPPY HOLIDAYS  AND BETTER NEW YEAR,I HOPE 

[Paul G]

I have not spoken to my ex in years, literally. I can not remember the last time. Been divorced about 16 years or so now. I had a good lawyer and the money I spent was well worth it. Nice guys finish last, believe me that is true. She will be milking you for the rest of her life if you don't have a good lawyer put an end to it through the courts.

If she got the house it is her house, why should you be spending money on it? The only thing you should be responsible for is your dependent daughter in equal portions with your ex. The ex will try to run up the bills on the dependent children if you have to pay them in full. Seen it more times than you know. You need a good lawyer. Pay him now, or pay her forever.

Sorry for being so blunt.

[hatersaurusrex]

I agree.  I'm the 5th of 6 kids and I saw every one of my older siblings take it up the rear and lose everything and custody of their kids in one fell swoop.   I waited until I was older to get married so I wouldn't risk getting f'ed over by some overgrown teenage dipshit, and I did a prenup.   Only way to go.

We have separate everything.   We have an agreement on who pays what bill, and I foot the rent and she does the utilities.  Putting all your money together means that you have to go ask someone else whether you can spend it or not, and I don't work this hard to ask permission.   Also, I never have to worry about how much of it she could blow on worthless crap.

She has a good job, and by not having access to my money she has incentive to work.   Think that's unfair?  I had one ex GF who said to me 'When are you going to make enough money so that I don't have to work anymore?   I shouldn't have to work'  And I told her 'When you're prepared to do all the housework and cook all the meals (she was lazy, and I cleaned and cooked most of the time).  She didn't see any reason that she should have to do that, and I was being a 'chauvinist' by even suggesting she do housework.     Some women think men should support them 100% financially but also believe it's OK to be hardcore feminists too.  They haven't figured out that the two don't really mix unless your husband is a billionaire and you're a trophy wife.   In which case you probably have an expiration date around 40.

 

[Dino]

trophy wife.   In which case you probably have an expiration date around 40.

 

   I lost a bit of coffee reading that, but it was well worth it.


When my wife and I started talking marriage, the first thing she said was prenup.  She wanted to be safe just in case and so did I.  The romance and butterflies go away at some point and without that piece of paper your ass is waiting to be taken.

If you are ready to tie the knot and for whatever reason your (almost) significant other refuses to sign a prenup you can do one of two things.  Walk away and keep your stones or start bending over.  There is no middle ground here.

[Silver R/T]

Some good advice right here, won't see this on Dr. Phil

[jar1292]

I was married to the love of my life, and her 4 yr. old step son, May 7th 2011, She was happy 4 months that I know of after. Last Wednesday I signed the divorce papers. Right before we split,(I was blindsided,seen nothing of the sort)I offered to take in her cousins as there mom was on down hill slide and they needed a future. A week later she walked out on me saying she needed time to think. Come to find out she was seeing a 39 year old.(she was 22). Talking with her the other day she said she is LOVING life. she is now raising 2, 8 and 11 year olds, her 5 year old, her sisters 10,12,and 1 year olds AND a baby on the way, taking care of her boy toys farm because he is never home.....  WHO can say...... ZING I dodged a bullet with that!!!


And yes there was a prenup all she got was the T.V. that we purchased with our wedding money.  ....

[Ram07]

The ex and I have settled, we have been separated for 3 years, divorced since last April....it is a one time thing, agreed to pay half (with a contact she pays me back when my old house sells) We have 50/50 over the daughter, she's going on 18 soon, no issues there, thanks for the responses! 

[JB400]

I was married to the love of my life, and her 4 yr. old step son, May 7th 2011, She was happy 4 months that I know of after. Last Wednesday I signed the divorce papers. Right before we split,(I was blindsided,seen nothing of the sort)I offered to take in her cousins as there mom was on down hill slide and they needed a future. A week later she walked out on me saying she needed time to think. Come to find out she was seeing a 39 year old.(she was 22). Talking with her the other day she said she is LOVING life. she is now raising 2, 8 and 11 year olds, her 5 year old, her sisters 10,12,and 1 year olds AND a baby on the way, taking care of her boy toys farm because he is never home.....  WHO can say...... ZING I dodged a bullet with that!!!


And yes there was a prenup all she got was the T.V. that we purchased with our wedding money.   ....

You didn't dodge a bullet, but a whole barrage.  Congratulations

[Steve P.]

Wow, I guess I am really lucky!! Married for 27 years now. I asked her to marry me after only 2 weeks. We have been through hell and high water together. Literally!! No prenup or religion at all. No Dr. Phill either!!!! 

[JB400]

Wow, I guess I am really lucky!! Married for 27 years now. I asked her to marry me after only 2 weeks. We have been through hell and high water together. Literally!! No prenup or religion at all. No Dr. Phill either!!!!  

Congradulations. Sometimes, you do find the right one.

[1970Moparmann]

And yes there was a prenup all she got was the T.V. that we purchased with our wedding money.  ....

You da'man!   

Sounds like her life now is a Jerry Springer show to me....  Tell her that and it would be funny what the response is!

[ACUDANUT]

I have seen prenumps get tossed out in court.  State laws can overide prenumps, and make them worthless "if one party claims they did not understand what they were signing".  Long story short...Prenumps don't always work.

[Dino]

It is true that a prenup is not foolproof, but I feel that ignoring it proves one a fool.

[Ram07]

Seems some got really lucky with the love of their life....hats off to you, seems some dodged a big bullet...hats off to you too!
Me...was with her for 18yrs...all good...divorced now...everything fixed....gave her 2500, done deal!

[Paul G]

I was 15 years with a woman I didn't like, the mother of my 2 children. Divorced her, cost me 1/2 of everything I owned, assets were split 50/50 all but the bills, those were mine, and the kids to. That was almost 20 years ago. Today, I hear she has nothing, go figure. I have been with my current wife for 16 years. Best friend I will ever have and the love of my life. Fate, you never what tomorrow brings.

[Ram07]

Hope I have the same luck as you! Didnt care about the stuff I lost, has been replaced. Now hoping for the best with my new lady...all good so far..

[polywideblock]

glad to see somebody moving on,gives me hope! i still can't look a a woman without thinking "who are you screwing over " 5 years on. guess I'm twisted and bitter