Marriage status Poll

[Fred]

married 57 years and still working at it. if i had to do it over i think i would have a new one every 5 years

Now that is truly awe - inspiring. Congrats      I think starting over every 5 years is too hard. Better the devil you know 

[Fred]

It's too funny this got posted....my wife of 6 years told me last night she was not happy (we have had our issues not like cheating or anything like that).  She told me that she wanted me to sell the charger to take care of our money issue. Here is my issue. My step daughter is basically a turd who can't keep a job so what little child support she gets is always jacked up. Anyway she is in travel soccer and wants to be in band now. That crap isn't cheap. I told her that her and her father would have to work that out. That didn't go over very well. She basically said that she wasn't telling me to sell the car but it was for the family.  She also said the only way she could "trust me" is if I sold the car. REALLY?  I make good money. She does the finances so I'm sure they are all jacked up.  Sounds like it's her or the car.....well see ya....I can't believe this is happening. We really grew apart the past few years.

My other ex-wife (and the judge) made me sell my 68 camaro conv. I sure know how to pick them.  I don't think so.  Will see what happens.

Geez mate that's tough. Sorry to hear it. But I wouldn't go down that road again (selling a car to please someone else). It's time to think about what makes you happy..........what's it all about and what are you getting out of it. Marriage is a two way street after all...............she can't have it all her own way. I wish you all the best.

[skip68]

Dang Lawdog..        You know I live out in the desert and people go missing all the time.        Just sayin......   I have good rates and discounts for charger members..................

[Tilar]

She also said the only way she could "trust me" is if I sold the car. REALLY?  I make good money.

WTF kind of arguement is that? She'll only trust you with money in hand or what? I would tell her that if I had to sell the car to earn her trust, She might want to consider trusting someone else, somewhere else... but that's just me.

[1970Moparmann]

Wow.  Something is really wrong with that perception.  They do say that finances are one of the top reason for relationships. 

My wife luckily is very understanding on my car issue. 

[Fred]

Dang Lawdog..        You know I live out in the desert and people go missing all the time.        Just sayin......   I have good rates and discounts for charger members..................

And so do cows.............as I recall 

[Roger 68 charger]

Was married for 22 years--together for 27--Found her cheating on me with her boss. She said she didnt mean it to happen. I kicked her out,the two kids (21 &18) still live with me. Divorce was final in March.

[Old Moparz]

I met my wife in 1985, we bought a house in 1989 & got married in 1995. Prior to meeting her, I didn't really picture myself staying in serious long term relationships, including marriage, to anyone I had previously dated. We have had some ups & downs, but both knew we would work through it & stay together. I suppose that means I'll pick "soul mate" on the poll.  

We know a lot of people who have gone through divorces, including my wife & her 1st husband who both married too young. The one thing that seems to be a common factor is that neither spouse truly knew the other person. Yes people can change over time & drift apart, but it seems that not knowing the person is a bigger issue. Storybook weddings & the white picket fences that are not even close to reality are other culprits in marriage destruction.

One thing I learned from watching other marriages fail, is that communication, compromise, & having common interests in something are very important to making it work. My wife & I talk about everything with each other, but more importantly, we actually listen to what the other says. Neither of us would ever go out & buy something expensive for ourselves, like a guitar for her, or cars & parts for me, without discussing it first.

We both enjoy going camping in our trailer & love music. We'll go to bluegrass festivals that she likes, & places like Carlisle for car shows for me. We don't do everything together, but we don't mind that & respect the other person's hobby or interest. She has her bluegrass band & her tofu, & I have my garage & cars because you need time for yourself. There are only two things I won't compromise on & told her that when we first started dating so there would be no surprise later on & that has worked so far. One is, I would never give up my car hobby unless I was sick of it, & two, I will not eat a tofu burger no matter how good she said says it is for me.  

[68blue]

Been married 32 years and I checked the soulmate column even though we don't have similar hobbies or personalities. We just get along well, can't really express it any other way.

[AKcharger]

Married 26 years to high school sweetheart. Yup it's great, to have the same person every single day for over 26 years. You wake up, eat with her, sleep with her. Make love to the same woman....spend every possible waking moment together, while some of you out there are running around with a bunch of 20-year-olds who only want a good time and cheap sex sex sex. Girls who can't say no. Girls who can't get enough. "More, more, more. It's your turn now to wear the handcuffs... "

[Indygenerallee]

 

[bakerhillpins]

14yrs this Wednesday the 9th..   Been great so far, looking forward to the future.

[twodko]

Every marriage/relationship requires some degree of work by both people. Rarely is there a marriage that you don't have to put some effort into. With this said, it took me 40 years and 2 failed marriages before I finally found "The One". We've been together now for 14+ years now and love each other more everyday.
Life can and does kick you square in the teeth though. Case in point......last week my wife's doc suggested we start thinking about hospice for her! She is only 59 and I'm losing her.  
You've all heard it before but it worth repeating.......love your spouse/girlfriend etc and tell them so frequently in words and by actions. This holds true for extended family and friends too. Do it NOW my forum friends because there will come a day when it's too late.

There it is.

[NHCharger]

Tom, very sorry to hear that about your wife.

[Fred]

Tom, very sorry to hear that about your wife.

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Fred & Erika

[Fred]

I met my wife in 1985, we bought a house in 1989 & got married in 1995. Prior to meeting her, I didn't really picture myself staying in serious long term relationships, including marriage, to anyone I had previously dated. We have had some ups & downs, but both knew we would work through it & stay together. I suppose that means I'll pick "soul mate" on the poll.  

We know a lot of people who have gone through divorces, including my wife & her 1st husband who both married too young. The one thing that seems to be a common factor is that neither spouse truly knew the other person. Yes people can change over time & drift apart, but it seems that not knowing the person is a bigger issue. Storybook weddings & the white picket fences that are not even close to reality are other culprits in marriage destruction.

One thing I learned from watching other marriages fail, is that communication, compromise, & having common interests in something are very important to making it work. My wife & I talk about everything with each other, but more importantly, we actually listen to what the other says. Neither of us would ever go out & buy something expensive for ourselves, like a guitar for her, or cars & parts for me, without discussing it first.

We both enjoy going camping in our trailer & love music. We'll go to bluegrass festivals that she likes, & places like Carlisle for car shows for me. We don't do everything together, but we don't mind that & respect the other person's hobby or interest. She has her bluegrass band & her tofu, & I have my garage & cars because you need time for yourself. There are only two things I won't compromise on & told her that when we first started dating so there would be no surprise later on & that has worked so far. One is, I would never give up my car hobby unless I was sick of it, & two, I will not eat a tofu burger no matter how good she said says it is for me.  

You bring up a lot of good points there Bob (as do you twodko). 
Having said that though (and remember once bitten, twice shy on my part) when Erika and I met, we just knew it was right and we were living together within 2 weeks and bought a house a few months later.  Just one of those things.

[Old Moparz]

Tom, very sorry to hear that about your wife.

Same here, don't know what else to say.

[adauto]

May God Bless... thats what...

[404NOTFOUND]

I voted for the first option. Have known my wife for 41 years since we were both 7 years old. We both always knew what would happen one day. We have now been married 25 happy years.

[Wheels of Terror]

Going on my second divorce. Not really feeling like a good strong marriage and children are in my future. My husband and his friend and he said my mother in law think when the divorce is final I'm going to do something stupid and buy a car.    Congratulations to the great men on this site that can love their wives for 35 yrs plus. They dont make em like you anymore. 

[NHCharger]

Congratulations to the great men on this site that can love their wives for 35 yrs plus. They dont make em like you anymore. 

It will only be 30 years for me and my wife this year. The secret to our success, separate vacations  She goes to disney world with her family or down to visit her sister while I stay home and take care of her dog. I head to carlisle every July.

[Fred]

Congratulations to the great men on this site that can love their wives for 35 yrs plus. They dont make em like you anymore. 

It will only be 30 years for me and my wife this year. The secret to our success, separate vacations  She goes to disney world with her family or down to visit her sister while I stay home and take care of her dog. I head to carlisle every July.

I think that's a good thing. You're two different people after all (even if you are soul mates) so a little space is never a bad thing. My wife jets off to Europe to visit family without me as I find the whole experience of being around her family very trying..........that means I'm not having a good time so she in turn doesn't have a good time and that's a waist of a holidy so she goes by herself. She's happy, I'm happy. The important thing here is that we trust each other totally. Not for a second would I think she was getting up to something or vise versa. There's no way either one of us would spoil the great thing we've got going.

[440]

But what would happen if she came to you one day and said you had to sell the charger?   

No more    for Fred

[Fred]

But what would happen if she came to you one day and said you had to sell the charger?   

No more    for Fred

She never would. Just like I would never tell her she can't travel. We don't own each other, just love each other.
Besides, she loves the charger as much as I do. She's an Mopar muscle car nut.

[skip68]

Damn Fred, that was well said.  "We don't own each other just love each other"