Marriage status Poll

[BLUE68RT4ME]

Well, I can't contribute much to this either.  I'm 37 and never married.  I never expected to be single this long, and it's not from a lack of trying.  I met a woman in November that I swore up and down that I would end up marrying.  Everything went great for a while, then she went from an extrovert to an introvert and I had no idea what happened.  All sorts of things happened after that but where I found myself about a month ago was that all of my interests are dumb, the car is dumb, my friends didn't even get to meet her, or my family either.  The only focus was on her needs, her fun, her son's needs, and if she had room after that, her priority was with her friends rather than me.  There's so much, no need to discuss it more but I just can't believe how hard it is to find someone that respects your needs and likes, not needing to enjoy them all, and is really a good person.  I'm no saint but I always put the other person as my highest priority.  I haven't met many women my age or younger that believe in that concept.  If I'm single the rest of my life, so be it.  The struggle I have the most is with not being a parent.

[Fred]

Well, I can't contribute much to this either.  I'm 37 and never married.  I never expected to be single this long, and it's not from a lack of trying.  I met a woman in November that I swore up and down that I would end up marrying.  Everything went great for a while, then she went from an extrovert to an introvert and I had no idea what happened.  All sorts of things happened after that but where I found myself about a month ago was that all of my interests are dumb, the car is dumb, my friends didn't even get to meet her, or my family either.  The only focus was on her needs, her fun, her son's needs, and if she had room after that, her priority was with her friends rather than me.  There's so much, no need to discuss it more but I just can't believe how hard it is to find someone that respects your needs and likes, not needing to enjoy them all, and is really a good person.  I'm no saint but I always put the other person as my highest priority.  I haven't met many women my age or younger that believe in that concept.  If I'm single the rest of my life, so be it.  The struggle I have the most is with not being a parent.

It's never easy finding out that the person you were planning to spend the rest of your life with is suddenly not that person. But you're lucky to find out before getting married. I agree you should definitely remain single until the absolute right person for you comes along. Never settle for just anyone. It won't work.
As for wanting to be a Dad, that's tough I know but it will be equally tough on your kids if you end up getting divorced. 
Better single and happy than married and unhappy.

[bull]

Well, I can't contribute much to this either.  I'm 37 and never married.  I never expected to be single this long, and it's not from a lack of trying.  I met a woman in November that I swore up and down that I would end up marrying.  Everything went great for a while, then she went from an extrovert to an introvert and I had no idea what happened.  All sorts of things happened after that but where I found myself about a month ago was that all of my interests are dumb, the car is dumb, my friends didn't even get to meet her, or my family either.  The only focus was on her needs, her fun, her son's needs, and if she had room after that, her priority was with her friends rather than me.  

If I were you I'd thank God every day that she went nuts when she did. Had she waited until after the would-be wedding you'd have gone crazier than a $4ithouse rat by now.

[Dino]

The struggle I have the most is with not being a parent.

Are you good financially?  Because there's a lot of kids out there looking for a parent.  Heck even a big brother!

[1969chargerrtse]

Next big thig will be how they both are ready for college in 2 years.  If the thought is I have to sell the Charger, there's gonna be problems.

Sadly Rob, selling the Charger MIGHT get you a semesters worth of tuition these days.....doing the college tour thing now with my oldest.... 

That's my point, I'm not selling my real soul mate for one semester.

[1969chargerrtse]

Just mentioned the sell your classic option to pay for the kids college to my wife. Her response was, why would you think we would do that?  Ok. She just became my soul mate. 

[skip68]

See, it's already a good birthday for you.   

[hatersaurusrex]

Prenup?

Yep.   I wouldn't get married without one.  Divorce court laws are stuck in the 1950's in terms of how one-sided they are.  Even if you don't have kids.

Too many people stay in marriages becuase they feel stuck and are afraid they'll lose everything they have if they get divorced.  I won't be in that situation.   

[Dino]

Prenup?

Yep.   I wouldn't get married without one.  Divorce court laws are stuck in the 1950's in terms of how one-sided they are.  Even if you don't have kids.

Too many people stay in marriages becuase they feel stuck and are afraid they'll lose everything they have if they get divorced.  I won't be in that situation.   

And if one party makes a fuss about the prenup I would say run!  Neither my wife nor myself would have married without one so that discussion took all but 5 seconds!   

[Ponch ®]

"I stopped looking for a dream girl. I just wanted one that wasnt a nightmare" - Charles Bukowski

[Brightyellow69rtse]

divorced here. without writing my life story i treated her like gold and turns out she was banging a guy in the next town over off and on for over two years. worst part is how i dont see my kids everday. the every other weekend sucks ass. i get a couple hours during the week but thats about it.  the guy she left me for has a pile of $  so im sure that has alot to do with it.  i got someone way better weve been engaged since december shes way better than the wife was oh and shes 5 model years newer haha.

[nvrbdn]

5 model years newer. good one.

[Ponch ®]

A wise man once wrote: "Loving a whore is a curse, but finding a whore is a blessing".

I'd like to tell you who the wise man was, but I don't know as it was written on the bathroom wall at my favorite dive bar.

[surmanajaja]

I am 40 and been married 10 years and a week. 2 sons, 4 and 6 years old. 1st marriage for both. it hasnt been easy ten years but I cant imagine I could trade for better woman who could stand me. besides, she is working, a great cook and not too bad for the eyes, better than what I deserve to be honest.

I wont call her my soulmate since she doesnt understand old cars, doesnt like the movies I love ( old b&w film noir, westerns, war movies etc..) and were not exactly alike,,but I probably wouldnt have fallen for a woman who had my brains anyhow

[1970Moparmann]

divorced here. without writing my life story i treated her like gold and turns out she was banging a guy in the next town over off and on for over two years. worst part is how i dont see my kids everday. the every other weekend sucks ass. i get a couple hours during the week but thats about it.  the guy she left me for has a pile of $  so im sure that has alot to do with it.  i got someone way better weve been engaged since december shes way better than the wife was oh and shes 5 model years newer haha.

That's BS.  She is the one that caused the divorce and you get the short end with the kids.  When will judges stop leaning towards females???

[BLUE68RT4ME]

The struggle I have the most is with not being a parent.

Are you good financially?  Because there's a lot of kids out there looking for a parent.  Heck even a big brother!

Financially?  I'll let you know after I get the bill from my body shop!   

I tried the big brother thing once and got burned by a mother that wanted her son's world to revolve around her.  Since then my career has made anything like that nearly impossible.  I travel a lot.

I have thought about adoption though, and unfortunately this government is so messed up it's easier to import a child than to save one of our own.  Makes me sick.   

[Wheels of Terror]

Mark, your a special kind of man since you love children the way you do. Especially that you are a single man that would want to adopt. I'm 33 and people our age don't seem to know how to stay in a relationship. They have children accidentally.

[Dino]

The struggle I have the most is with not being a parent.

Are you good financially?  Because there's a lot of kids out there looking for a parent.  Heck even a big brother!

Financially?  I'll let you know after I get the bill from my body shop!   

I tried the big brother thing once and got burned by a mother that wanted her son's world to revolve around her.  Since then my career has made anything like that nearly impossible.  I travel a lot.

I have thought about adoption though, and unfortunately this government is so messed up it's easier to import a child than to save one of our own.  Makes me sick.   

Yep it's a pain to do the right thing, hence my question on finances.  It was good of you to at least try to be a big brother, leeches will always appear when people find out you're nice though.

On the other hand, nothing wrong with adopting a child from another country.  It's just a nationality, we're all human.

[Wheels of Terror]

68BlueRT4Me, I'm surprised your not married with you outlook on children and relationships?! A guy like you is hard to find. 

[TheGhost]

Never been married.  Don't have any kids (thank god).  Had a few relationships over the past few years, but none went anywhere.  Doesn't bother me.  I'm enjoying being single.  Maybe someday, I might get married.  I'm not in any hurry, though.

[Musicman]

Hmmmm... Looking at the pole stats, over 50 % of the population believes that they are married to their "Soul Mate". If this is true, then why is the divorce rate so high? 

[Fred]

must be the other 41%. 

[Ponch ®]

The struggle I have the most is with not being a parent.

dude, i just read that raising a kid from 0-18 costs $270,000.

Anyone got a HEMI Daytona for sale?

[MOPAR FANATIC]

  For you singles guys out there,DON'T do it.nothing but nag nag nag.bi$cth,bi$cth,bit$ch.
been married since'92 and lived together for nine years before that. 
she took a sledge to my 71 chally's rally hood a year ago and i almost lost it............PROBABLY WOULD HAVE BEEN DIVORCED YEARS AGO I NOT for my 9 yr old son. 

[Cooter]

MArried to the best damn woman on the planet. She's trooper. She puts up with me. In return, I don't cheat, lie, beat on her, abuse her mentally, etc. I pay the bills when she can't. i stand beside her as she stands beside me.

She deserves better, but she settled for me.