My wife is giving me the business.....

[HeavyFuel]

...and not the kind that I look forward to.

She started in with the old, "How much money have you spent on that stupid car? How much more do you have to spend?  blah blah blah"

I came back with all of the sacrifices that I've made over that last twenty years to help offset the $$ going to the Charger.  And what it's worth.

She came back with, "It doesn't matter what it's worth, you're never going to sell it."

So I say......"I might not ever sell the car, but YOU sure as hell might go any day now."

That's all I remember until this morning.

[model maker]

Did she clobber you this morning ?  LOL. i feel your pain though. Hang in there she doesn't understand your commitment. Maybe if she found out the car was suddenly worth a LOT of money, she will probably change her mind however, if that happens she may pressure you to sell it so she can get the money. hang tough and don't give in.
Bert

[b5blue]

  I have an EX wife and a 70 Charger still....she only piped up 1 time about MY car and I didn't need to say a word, my kids jumped her! I ended up keeping the kids to!
  Seriously though don't forget to spend some time and money on her every now and then! 

[HeavyFuel]

  I have an EX wife and a 70 Charger still....she only piped up 1 time about MY car and I didn't need to say a word, my kids jumped her! I ended up keeping the kids to!
  Seriously though don't forget to spend some time and money on her every now and then! 

Yeah...that's a good tip....although she spends enough on herself already!   Can you say, "Hot Tub"?

[HeavyFuel]

Did she clobber you this morning ?  LOL. i feel your pain though. Hang in there she doesn't understand your commitment. Maybe if she found out the car was suddenly worth a LOT of money, she will probably change her mind however, if that happens she may pressure you to sell it so she can get the money. hang tough and don't give in.
Bert

Of course I was just kidding about that last part...I didn't say it, and she didn't wack me.....


But I WANTED to......

[Troy]

Never tell them what it's worth - that adds dollar signs to a divorce!

OR, in the worst case, it's sold while you are gone without your knowledge.

I believe money (or, more precisely, how the other spends it) is at the top of the list of reasons to fight within a marriage. A budget (with documentation!) helps. It's amazing what a woman can spend on shoes, spas, gifts for friends, etc. when no one is watching. Of course guys can do the same with tools and car parts. Since a classic car is worth a lot (and it's around long after shoes and clothes have been trashed) it tends to become the focus whenever money gets tight. Having a documented history of how much you've spent (or not spent) over time helps. On the other hand, most women aren't logical so it's easier to just hide what you spend and let them think of it as the "old junker out back".

Troy

[Ghoste]

Of course, its pretty rare for shoes and spa visits to be sold in an estate sale if the wife passes first.  And chances are she won't go first.

[AirborneSilva]

My wife and I have come to an agreement, we put an agreed upon amount into a central bank account that pays all the houehold bills and puts a fair amount into savings, then what's left we have seperate checking accounts the money goes into, we pay our personal bills like car payments and such then what's left over is none of the other persons business how it's spent.  She does ask on occasion how much I pay for a part, I give her the same answer - none of your business, it's my money!

[moparstuart]

My wife and I have come to an agreement, we put an agreed upon amount into a central bank account that pays all the houehold bills and puts a fair amount into savings, then what's left we have seperate checking accounts the money goes into, we pay our personal bills like car payments and such then what's left over is none of the other persons business how it's spent.  She does ask on occasion how much I pay for a part, I give her the same answer - none of your business, it's my money!

good plan 

[duanesterrr]

This is the main reason as a 26 year old I will be buying a charger before any mention of the "M" word.  If I already had it before "M" then its part of the deal!

Oh, and might I add... my logic is sound and will never be questioned 

[AirborneSilva]

It is working but every now and again she does try to control my money and I have to reminde her it's mine and not her's.

[bull]

Why do you guys marry bitches?

[AirborneSilva]

Why do you guys marry bitches?

My wifes not a bitch, she is likes to be controlling however and since I am the type of person whom likes to do what he wants to to then it does cause some friction on occasion but I pick my battles too 

[Rolling_Thunder]

Just reassure her that if you can be that faithful to a car....    you are that faithful with her.   

[Patronus]

Its all numbers, tell her there's some on the stove.

[model maker]

 Great advice Troy
You could always get a prenuptial agreement before you get married so that your charger STAYS YOURS ! If the wife ever askes how MUCH you spent on some parts just tell her "NOt as much as you did on those  23 pair of matching shoes I know that when I finally get the car of my dreams the wife will support me and that IS a relief not to have to worry about that, she IS i guess you can say, A " Numbers matching " wife

Bert

[Indygenerallee]

I had 5 project cars at one time once I found my 69 Charger I told my wife this is the car I have wanted all my life!! so I sold the rest so she knew I was serious and she has supported me 100% (Although she may not know where every dime goes!)  She is understanding just remember "as long as mom is happy everyone is happy!"

[aussiemuscle]

Why do you guys marry bitches?

hehe. 1 point for bull.

it's not just car guys either, many of my friends gave up their hobby when they got married. 

[NHCharger]

My wife has no problem with my big shop behind the house, or the fact that I have three Chargers. Unlike many others in the construction trade I don't stop at the bar every night on the way home, don't smoke, no drugs, my only vacation is Carlisle once a year. I have easily averaged over 50 hours a week at work for the last 20+ years. My Charger hobby is my only outlet.

[Back N Black]

Every penny spent on my charger was from money i made on the side, i never used our regular pay  for the restoration. 

[TUFCAT]

My car is like "property value" because it won't sell it..  Just like a rare forgotten diamond sitting in a safety deposit box somewhere.

[TUFCAT]

Every penny spent on my charger was from money i made on the side, i never used our regular pay  for the restoration.  

Same here!!    I have about four to five grand "house money" invested in my car....mostly on the complete engine sitting on its stand next to it. .

[TheGhost]

Any woman who doesn't support your hobbies isn't worth keeping.  A little complaining now and then is one thing, but if this happens often, it won't stop.

[The70RT]

I have had my car one year longer than the wife, 33 years. She knows what the car means to me. Only once in a while we get into it about the car.....but it's me bitching about not enough money going into it   She even said I can sell her classic if I want to finish the Charger. I said no because we still need to get out to cruises and shows till the Charger is done. A funny thing happened last summer when my car was leaving on a trailer to get painted. She said I never thought I would see the car leaving before me!....I said yeah but when it leaves it coming back  

[jaak]

Every penny spent on my charger was from money i made on the side, i never used our regular pay  for the restoration.  

Ditto, I built my car the same way. But even if I did use our regular income, my wife wouldn't have said anything about it. She's cool, we've been married almost 12 years and have never had an argument.

Jason

[Fred]

I love my wife....................she's so good to me................I think I'll keep her! 

I guess it helps that it's her hobby too.

[Troy]

She said I never thought I would see the car leaving before me!....I said yeah but when it leaves it coming back  

Troy

[RallyeMike]

Why do you guys marry bitches? cheers

hehe. 1 point for bull.

 

Glad you guys get them market off the market for us.

[Kern Dog]

My EX wife once said..."YOU love your car more than you love me." She was right. The car did what I wanted and weighed less.

[Fred]

Why do you guys marry bitches? cheers

hehe. 1 point for bull.

 

Glad you guys get them market off the market for us.

The thing is.............they only grow their horns after they're married! 

[mrsskip68]

Hey guys, not all wives are bitches. I have totally enjoyed the Mopar lifestyle and want another one! Just as much as I liked the boat lifestyle, the motorcycle lifestyle, the music lifestyle, and now the All Terrain lifestyle that skip decided,..........I would just like,..........(And dont slap me around too much  ) something for ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry guys but to me there is no other car for ME than a 1967 Camaro. Wanted one since I was 12 yrs old. Slate grey metallic grey (NO RALLY STRIPES, FOR ME ITS FEATHER PAINTED CHROME, only on certain areas,) big fatties on rear, and a fierce exhaust system. Mama needs some fun too!  Lisa

[Bob T]

Hey guys, not all wives are bitches. I have totally enjoyed the Mopar lifestyle and want another one! Just as much as I liked the boat lifestyle, the motorcycle lifestyle, the music lifestyle, and now the All Terrain lifestyle that skip decided,..........I would just like,..........(And dont slap me around too much  ) something for ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry guys but to me there is no other car for ME than a 1967 Camaro. Wanted one since I was 12 yrs old. Slate grey metallic grey (NO RALLY STRIPES, FOR ME ITS FEATHER PAINTED CHROME, only on certain areas,) big fatties on rear, and a fierce exhaust system. Mama needs some fun too!   Lisa

Cool, Good     . Make it happen then.
A few of the guys wives that I know in our car club have their own cars and drive the Hell out of them, so, get stuck in, every year is shortening up

I reckon bitching about a current wife on a public forum is just pointless and shallow , I'd be slutted if she was slagging me off on f/b or somewhere , would'nt anyone    

[AirborneSilva]

Why do you guys marry bitches?

hehe. 1 point for bull.

it's not just car guys either, many of my friends gave up their hobby when they got married. 

Screw that!  that aint gonna happen!

[The70RT]

Why do you guys marry bitches?

hehe. 1 point for bull.

it's not just car guys either, many of my friends gave up their hobby when they got married. 

Screw that!  that aint gonna happen!

If your real cat guy marrage isn't gonna stop it!

[AirborneSilva]

Why do you guys marry bitches?

hehe. 1 point for bull.

it's not just car guys either, many of my friends gave up their hobby when they got married. 

Screw that!  that aint gonna happen!

If your real cat guy marrage isn't gonna stop it!

I'm going to assume you mean car guy not cat guy.  I am somewhat lucky in that the wife is a car girl and I have made her a MOPAR girl (she has a Challenger SRT8), but she does have a controlling side and seems to like to tell me how to spend MY money.  I do have to put that straight on occasion but it doesn't get heated and she concedes it is my money...

Edit:  Oh yeah and she's a hot little blond almost 14 years younger then me :-p

[HeavyFuel]

Why do you guys marry bitches? cheers

hehe. 1 point for bull.

 

Glad you guys get them market off the market for us.

The thing is.............they only grow their horns after they're married! 

Ha...yeah, she resembles that statement.

The thing is...like someone else mentioned as well, I come home every night, don't drink (too much), don't cheat on her, and my daily drivers are her hand-me-downs (2006 Sienna....I know.. I know....I've got 3 kids).  I'm pretty much at my family's beck and call.

The only thing for me that I've put money into is this car, and she gives me little support.     

I've got a little bit of artistic talent and pretty good attention to detail, so my long term restoration has been like an automotive work of art.  It would be very therapeutic if my wife didn't make such an issue out of it.

I bought the car before we were married, and it'll be around when she's gone.  Or I'm dead.

[AirborneSilva]

Have you told her that while you love her and the kids very much you also love and enjoy working on your Charger and when you are done with it you hope she will enjoy it with you (you driving of course  )....

[HeavyFuel]

Have you told her that while you love her and the kids very much you also love and enjoy working on your Charger and when you are done with it you hope she will enjoy it with you (you driving of course  )....

Been there....doesn't seem to help much.   

But, hey, she's leaving town for the next 5 days.......lot's of time for me, the kids and the Charger!

[AirborneSilva]

Have you told her that while you love her and the kids very much you also love and enjoy working on your Charger and when you are done with it you hope she will enjoy it with you (you driving of course  )....

Been there....doesn't seem to help much.   

But, hey, she's leaving town for the next 5 days.......lot's of time for me, the kids and the Charger!

Wow, sorry to hear that

[Fred]

Why do you guys marry bitches? cheers

hehe. 1 point for bull.

 

Glad you guys get them market off the market for us.

The thing is.............they only grow their horns after they're married! 

Ha...yeah, she resembles that statement.

The thing is...like someone else mentioned as well, I come home every night, don't drink (too much), don't cheat on her, and my daily drivers are her hand-me-downs (2006 Sienna....I know.. I know....I've got 3 kids).  I'm pretty much at my family's beck and call.

The only thing for me that I've put money into is this car, and she gives me little support.     

I've got a little bit of artistic talent and pretty good attention to detail, so my long term restoration has been like an automotive work of art.  It would be very therapeutic if my wife didn't make such an issue out of it.

I bought the car before we were married, and it'll be around when she's gone.  Or I'm dead.

That's sad mate.  When I was building mine I spent all night every night in the garage (only came in to eat) the wife sat watching TV on her own. But she knew how passionate I was about it and though she did sometimes think it was taking over my life she never bitched..................she just said if it makes you happy, it makes me happy. And now we're both enjoying it.

[Surf Charger]

The same way Ron Cherry gave NC State the business?......

http://youtu.be/6D8aAC4jrPM

[resq302]

Why do you guys marry bitches? cheers

hehe. 1 point for bull.

 

Glad you guys get them market off the market for us.

The thing is.............they only grow their horns after they're married! 

Yeh!  Why is that!?!?!?!  Its funny how sweet and charming they are and then blam!  I gotta say that my wife is pretty good although she really doesn't like the fact when Carlisle comes up that Im gone for 4 days (if I do get a chance to go) leaving her home with the two young kids.  I've suggested that they come along but she says that there is really nothing to keep the kids attention for that long there.  I kinda have to agree with that.

[Mopar440+6]

I am thankful for my wife in this respect. Her father has owned a bunch of vintage rides from MGB's and other old British cars to a 67 GTO to a 76 Corvette and has raced SCCA since his 20's (he's 63 now) so at least she understands the obsession that comes with these cars. The last time I even hinted at selling the Charger I got a half hour lecture on why that's not going to happen. I've been kinda moping around for the last two weeks because I want another sportbike (sold my last one 2 years ago when we found out we were expecting). Tonight she tells me to go talk to the bank tomorrow about getting a loan for another one. I love her to death. Of course, this will all probably come back to haunt me in a couple years when she decides she wants her own road course car...

[BB1]

Single with Charger is the only way to go. 

[Dino]

I'm one of the lucky ones, got a loving wife that supports me and my hobbies.  She actually bought me the Charger as a gift.  What a woman!

[AirborneSilva]

I'm one of the lucky ones, got a loving wife that supports me and my hobbies.  She actually bought me the Charger as a gift.  What a woman!

When I was into 4 wheeling my wife bought me an 04 Rubicon...  We had some good times in that.

[The70RT]

If you're really into cars and always have been I figure you would be hanging around women that were into cars? I guess there is sorta car guys and real car guys. If you are really into cars the women you marry ought to know the dedication and accepted that when the knot was tied but some guys just want the woman bad and act like they are someone else then they find out later about them. Kind of like an alcoholic. If you meet a woman and have car stuff everywhere and have some classics then it's a no brainer what your passion is......right??

[suntech]

Saw the tread heading, was thinking ............hmmmmmm lucky guy...........B&B day on the 14th 

[moparstuart]

Single with Charger is the only way to go. 

your single and no charger   

[bull]

Why do you guys marry bitches? cheers

hehe. 1 point for bull.

 

Glad you guys get them market off the market for us.

The thing is.............they only grow their horns after they're married!  

There's a lot of truth to that in some cases. I'm related to one such woman who turned into a venom-spitting, paranoid, superbitch after she had her first kid. Some hormonal screw up I guess. She's still going strong in that mode 12 years later. Her husband is a prisoner in his own house.

[HeavyFuel]

If you're really into cars and always have been I figure you would be hanging around women that were into cars? I guess there is sorta car guys and real car guys. If you are really into cars the women you marry ought to know the dedication and accepted that when the knot was tied but some guys just want the woman bad and act like they are someone else then they find out later about them. Kind of like an alcoholic. If you meet a woman and have car stuff everywhere and have some classics then it's a no brainer what your passion is......right??

You would think so.......hard to tell who's fooling who during a courtship.  Skeletons are bound to fall out of everyones closet.

I drove a 1962 Pontiac Catalina 2 door, 389, as a daily when we first met.  I resto'd that car, drove it for a few years and sold it to buy the charger, before we were even engaged.

I don't know if I fall into your classification as a "real" car guy....but I'm no sally....

[resq302]

Why do you guys marry bitches? cheers

hehe. 1 point for bull.

 

Glad you guys get them market off the market for us.

The thing is.............they only grow their horns after they're married!  

There's a lot of truth to that in some cases. I'm related to one such woman who turned into a venom-spitting, paranoid, superbitch after she had her first kid. Some hormonal screw up I guess. She's still going strong in that mode 12 years later. Her husband is a prisoner in his own house.

Thats when you fire up the charger in the garage with the door down and at least go out with one thing that will make you happy.   FOR THE RECORD, I AM ONLY KIDDING!!!!!!!   PLEASE DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME!!!!!!  (OR IN THE GARAGE)

[HeavyFuel]

Why do you guys marry bitches? cheers

hehe. 1 point for bull.

 

Glad you guys get them market off the market for us.

The thing is.............they only grow their horns after they're married!  

There's a lot of truth to that in some cases. I'm related to one such woman who turned into a venom-spitting, paranoid, superbitch after she had her first kid. Some hormonal screw up I guess. She's still going strong in that mode 12 years later. Her husband is a prisoner in his own house.

Nice try on your post modification of the woman, Bull.

Don't worry, your secret's safe with us.....

[bull]

Why do you guys marry bitches? cheers

hehe. 1 point for bull.

 

Glad you guys get them market off the market for us.

The thing is.............they only grow their horns after they're married!  

There's a lot of truth to that in some cases. I'm related to one such woman who turned into a venom-spitting, paranoid, superbitch after she had her first kid. Some hormonal screw up I guess. She's still going strong in that mode 12 years later. Her husband is a prisoner in his own house.

Nice try on your post modification of the woman, Bull.

Don't worry, your secret's safe with us.....

It's not that really. I don't care what she thinks anymore. I just don't want her embarrassing you, me, herself, her family, the human race, etc. The farther I am from the center of her radar the better for everyone because I have a very little tolerance for her BS. I just thank God every day that I never hooked up with her because it could have happened. 100 pounds and 18 years ago she looked good and acted normal but now she's not happy unless she's pissed off.

[Brightyellow69rtse]

bull i feel that we are brothers haha. note one ex wife here. she is only happy now when she is blood boiling pissed off.

[TUFCAT]

Wow Bull....she sounds like a super bitch.

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