So close, yet...

[RoscoePColtrain]

So here's the situation, not necessarily with a negative connotation.

Life lifted a huge block off my shoulders after a divorce with a crazy woman, then graduated with my comp sci degree, landed a full time permanent job, and found a hottie girlfriend.
She's the strong, independant type that doesn't like the institution of marriage, great right?  So in this time I make money and save for a semi restored, running 69 Charger, which here in Canada will still cost me a good 20K.  Then I get the marraige talk.  I'm like wtf?  What happened to the strong independent woman who doesn't beleive in marriage... her answer was "what I say and what I want are different"... again, wtf, there are days when up means purple other days when down means apples.  Mind you, I'll do anything for her and I do want to get married to her, but there goes the car once again.  Then I find a restored 70 Runner for 15K, then I get the "buying a house" talk... and that was all she wrote... she goes "I'll buy you the car when you're 50" (I'm 36 now)... huge sigh!

Well, at least I'll have a very intelligent hottie with a kick-a$$ job and a nice home!  Looks like the car will have to wait again...  Although she did let me choose the theme for the engagement pictures, I'm thinking old mopars...

[nvrbdn]

things are not at their worst. she is the light of your life so give a little for that happiness. then find you a rust bucket that has plenty of parts with it for much less. then on those nights when things arent at their best you can snuggle up to your project in the garage. you get all the things she wants and the car. just in pieces.

[Ponch ®]

One word (or is it two?): PRE-NUP!

[Chad L. Magee]

   Count your blessings as it could be worse, you could have no hot girlfriend and no education (or skills) to help pay for the future Charger(s) (whenever she says so)....

I have the education side, but not the other (no luck but bad on that stuff)......   

[PocketThunder]

Sounds to me like you will never get that Charger you've always wanted because she is controling your life 'again'.  

[Dans 68]

Somehow I knew Paul would chim in....

I would say to get your family financially secure (roof over your heads, insurance policies, savings accounts, etc.) (if you are going the marriage route, as kids will be coming) and save the extra pennies for your Charger. It will come. Family health, security and happiness (and thus, yours) are more important.

Dan

[Brass]

Sometimes people have a change of heart about marriage and that's understandable – but this sounds like a bait and switch to me.  Worse, it sounds like she had a very flippant attitude about her duplicity and misrepresented intentions.  Use your best judgment but don't forget that there are a lot of other hotties out there.  Perhaps ones that would be more respectful of your timetable/desires too.  

[FLG]

Go with the car, its cheaper in the long run 

[Back N Black]

Its only 14 years and you will be 50.  Start collecting AMD sheet metal now and in 14 years you will have a charger. For your birthday ask for a fender and maybe Christmas get a door. 

[jb666]

Go with the car, its cheaper in the long run 

Says the engaged guy....

BUT, (says the married guy) he's right.

[bakerhillpins]

Sounds a bit sour to me but I am not living with her.  I would have to say that I am with Paul on this. Been married for 13 yrs and during that time I have never been told what I can and can't buy. Been given plenty of "suggestions" though.      However, I also realize that I signed on for a bunch of other priorities when I got married, bought a home, and had kids. Those decisions delayed LOTS of things I want to do and I am cool with that. I am fortunate that I can afford a Charger now, and even though it's not the optimum use of the money from my wife's standpoint she supports my decision because we are a team at this. It's important to note that this is a 2 way street and the wife has the same latitude with the finances as I do, and I support her in those situations too.

Works well for us and we are happy. 

[mikesbbody]

Sounds a bit sour to me but I am not living with her.  I would have to say that I am with Paul on this. Been married for 13 yrs and during that time I have never been told what I can and can't buy. Been given plenty of "suggestions" though.      However, I also realize that I signed on for a bunch of other priorities when I got married, bought a home, and had kids. Those decisions delayed LOTS of things I want to do and I am cool with that. I am fortunate that I can afford a Charger now, and even though it's not the optimum use of the money from my wife's standpoint she supports my decision because we are a team at this. It's important to note that this is a 2 way street and the wife has the same latitude with the finances as I do, and I support her in those situations too.

Works well for us and we are happy. 

Go with the car, its cheaper in the long run 

Says the engaged guy....

BUT, (says the married guy) he's right.

Sounds to me like you will never get that Charger you've always wanted because she is controling your life 'again'.   

I agree with these Guy's I'm Married with a Young Daughter House, Bills etc and I dont have a good job but the wife knows better than to tell me what to do when it comes to the Charger I buy what I want, when I want (when i can afford it) 

[Tigger]

looks fade. so you better have a strong feelings and no second guessing. If you are second guessing you are already divorced.

[RoscoePColtrain]

No, don't get me wrong fellas, she has never told me what to do and even suggested if I wanted the car for so long, to just get it (not sarcastically too!).  I made the joke that if I'm going to get you an $$$ engagement ring, then I wanted a 70RR of equal value... she goes "cool".  Unfortunately I'm old enough to know that I'd rather have a nice furnished home than my dream car; and in the end its our money.  The car will come in time...

[The70RT]

50...60...70...80....going going.... gone. A friend of mines sister died in her sleep Sunday......nothing was wrong with her.....times an essence then one day were dirt again and some never had a clue.

[Tilar]

her answer was "what I say and what I want are different"...

And this is different from any other woman in what way?

[nvrbdn]

dont do what i tell you to do, do what im thinking i want you to do cause thats what i really want.  that is what women are really saying