I Have A Confession

[Darkness]

Well, I'm going to throw into some stuff. I may embarass myself and some of you may think I'm an a** but, anyways. So, I decided to try the online thing for meeting girls right. That's where I made my first mistake. Second thing, I started talking to a few girls and then met a few girls. Go out and have a good time or so it seemed. Then, came along one girl I dated for a while. Things went extremely well for a while and then I went home. Then, she cheated on me. Funny thing was she told me on my B-Day. I was totally devastated. Then, I found out I'm the one who is the most god awful person on the face of the planet. She told me I was too nice and that was the reason why she cheated basically and that I wasn't wild enough for her.
Then, I meet some other girls from online mainly and they too caused me much unneeded drama. Like this one recent female who I took in as a roommate to help her out. Then one day I get a note from one girl that she works with telling me to give her a call, and not only that I find out the girl is cheating on her b/f and apparentely still dating this guy because she didn't even tell him about the other guy. BTW, she's still calling the other guy because I told him what was going on and he was like yeah, man its cool she still calls me even though I told her to stop calling me and she also still calls her ex that told her to stop calling.   Thanks for telling me he says.
Anyways, these females have been talking a lot of trash about me and then you got their other friends that talk trash about you when they don't know you but, they do it to fit in with the crowd or the "bystander effect" so to speak. Then I've had a few that I don't call anymore simply because they were what I like to call hit & miss friends. People that go months without talking to you and making up excuses along the way about how they were too busy or you know. I can understand a few days or a week especially if they're going through a hard time or so but, months and you know you've either been on the phone or on the computer with other people that just doesn't fly in my book. Then you confront them by saying hey, I'm sorry but, that's an excuse and then they all get huffy when they know they're in the wrong.
Then, I've stopped talking to some females completely because of that but, then they come by my place here leaving notes telling me to call them after the fact. And then if I don't call them then I'm the jerk simply because but, I shouldn't have to be a fair weather friend to anyone. I've bit my tongue many times and kept everything to myself.
Then, finally after enough of this and I know some of you think I'm going to be an idiot for what I did but, I sent them an email telling them that I died in a car wreck. Probably wasn't the right thing to do but, after trying to rationalize and explain to them that you can't treat people that is suppose to be your friends like that. They don't listen and they don't care. It gets me nowhere.
Of course, I am a decent guy, I don't bother no one really, I keep to myself most of the time but, I had this one girl get her nose all up into my business. She found out and I told her hey, I'm tired of all of this, this why I did this, we've talked about this times before and leave me alone. Of course she has to go and make drama. But, I tell her that's not me because that's not who I am anymore. That's not the name I go by anymore because of all the crap I've gone through I've decided to go by my middle name just avoid drama. I know it doesn't sound right and I know it seems messed up. But, you know what. I've tried every avenue without getting the police involved and trying to without create drama. And to me this was the only way out without moving which I might do anyways because I don't need this with the heart problem I have. For now, I'm just going to finish my degree, work on my cars, and learn some computer stuff and take a few trips. After what I've had to endure the past year I deserve a break. Well, I guess I'm asking for a beating but, hey I just had to get this off of my chest. I realize there's two sides to every story so here is my side. I hope it makes sense. Try not to go too hard on me and I don't mean anything bad by this post. Take care. And just let you all know all these women are young. Early 20s. Just thought I would throw in that fact and I'm in my early 20s as well, almost mid 20s though.

[BB1]

You dating 20 somethings, just wait 15 years when there desperate to have kids.  

And stop being so nice, assh0les get the loyal women.

Yeah that email was not a good move, especially if after you died you set them a email saying that you... died.  

[andy74]

look for an older woman,and take it slow,or turn queer

[Darkness]

Well with the email most of them have stopped bothering me. As for being an a**hole. I don't think I can do it but, I do stand my ground. You do have a valid point though for the most part. I'm not worried about dating for a while or even hanging out with females. I've got other things to focus on like my education and working on my cars, and building a house. I know it was a dumb move on my part but, it has both worked and not worked.

[Recharger]

...or turn queer

You do have a valid point though for the most part. I'm not worried about dating for a while or even hanging out with females.

I sent them an email telling them that I died in a car wreck. Probably wasn't the right thing to do

Sounds like a bullet-proof plan.   I can't think of any situation where that might come back to bite you in the ass.     

[Darkness]

Okay one small detail I forgot to mention is that I sent it out under another name claiming to be a family member. Okay probably not the smartest thing but, read the post above. They wouldn't leave me alone. Like I said I f**ked up doing what I did. Anyways, I'm keeping to myself for a while. Less drama that way.

[6pkrunner]

look for an older woman,and take it slow,or turn queer

ROFL!! You owe me a keyboard. This one is filled with coffee.

[Telvis]

The A-hole thing works for a while on young girls but eventally they get fed up with the jerks and start looking for the nice guys. It's all a matter of maturity and self worth. You will find the right girl someday. Stick to your studies, graduate and work toward future caree goals. Get your life in order and you will be amazed at how attractive you will become to the ladies. So, how's being dead treating you?   

[teddy1500]

you know, my best friend met his ex, and next ex online. (thank God this one is fixed)...... the internet is the best way to meet some hot blonde, from cali, who is really a water buffalo, named "steve", in new york.....

[TruckDriver]

Sounds to me that you are going through the same thing I have for the last 35 years that I been wanting a decent woman. I NEVER had a date with a woman til I was like 24 or so. I always been the type of guy to mind my own business and fairly quiet. Although back then I was always consitered to be fat when I was 270 pounds 6'1. But a lot of that was the era and the fact that there wasn't many over weight people. The few dates I did have were the dates that you go on (two or three) and then find out your not compatable with each other. Through out that whole time from 15 til like 27 years old, I was told I'm to nice of guy so many times, it wasn't even funny. When I married my now Ex who I met though the news paper (before computer dating), We only knew each other for 3 weeks when the proposal happened. It never should of happened, but it did cause we both were desperate for a mate, not because we loved each other. BIG mistake on both of us. We made it ten and a half years together and had 2 boys. BUT, we NEVER loved each. We lived like room mates that shared a bed, and once every 3 to 4 weeks had sex. We never saw each other more then 4 hours a day for the whole 10 years. And only RARELY did anything together. She left me cause it all came to the breaking point for her. It was easy to get over because of that. That we never felt any love for each other. We get along way better now then we did when we were married. But since then, I get the same ol' "Your to nice of a guy" crap. That or now it is because that I am fatter then ever before. So for me, I have only ever had 1 real girlfriend, my ex-wife. I honestly now believe no matter what anyone tells me, that I will NEVER have a girlfriend again. Over the years, I have become very quiet, and reclusive. I just have no desire to go out looking to find a woman again or going out so one finds me. Do I wish to? Yes. But I have no ambition to actually do it. Why? Over ALL the years of looking for someone, and being told "I am to nice of a guy", "I'm to fat", "to ugly", "not their type" ect., I'm just plain tired of hearing it. I actually have a saying on my Yahoo profile that says; "If someone actually cared I excisted, I'm not sure I could deal with it". It pretty much sums up how I feel. So your NOT alone when it comes to women!
                                                                                                                Pete

[69_500]

Your definately not alone in the situation with women. I went through pretty much the same thing for about 4 years after college. Girls I'd date would be fine for a while then, leave me for a jerk or something like that. Just keep your head up, a good one will come along. I met my wife shortly after I had given up hope of ever meeting a nice women. 10 months later we were married, and now we have a 2 year old son, and trying for another.

[Darkness]

Actually, right now is not that bad and I know its sound awful but, I don't have to deal with any drama if some of you know what I mean. For a while I went on a lot of dates but, like a couple have stated a couple went sour or they wanted that jerk or whatever the case maybe. That's very true. On the flip side I know there is a nice woman out there even if I never find her here in this life. Like I said I felt bad for what I did and I admitted to screwing up. Of course alcohol and hard times do things to you sometimes that you wouldn't expect even if you drink enough to get buzzed like I do. But, like I said at the time I felt it was the only way without getting the police involved. And as we all know sometimes getting the police involved doesn't do much or either costs a lot of money because if we have to the courthouse to do paperwork.
Anyways, on the flipside to those who married. That's wonderful and great. I hope it continues to work out and go well. To me I guess, I'm even to the point to get married now because of some stories I've heard both ways not to mention seems like if we mess up once in something small nobody wants to work out anything. And just from watching my parents rocky marriage basically takes away that desire. Sometimes I have to wonder if that's because of majority politically correct we want everything given to us and perfect society folks out there. Just take a look at the news and maybe some will see what I'm talking about. Anyways, I guess the best lesson to learn from this is that the internet isn't a good place to meet people. They usually either hide things from you or they play one personality online and play another when you meet or something.
On another note, I just want to say that I'm not some loser as it may sound perhaps from this post. I have three cars, half of my college education completed and working on completing the rest, I wear nice clothes, have a decent place that I rent for cheap, make decent money, and in fairly decent shape even though I have a heart problem and a couple of other things. Anyways, I just want to say DodgeChargerGuy, I'm sorry to hear about your experiences. It sucks but, at least you had two boys come out of the deal. Hopefully, you get to see them every now and then. Anyways, sorry you've had a lot of bad experiences.
69_500, glad you found someone. That's awesome and I wish you the best on that. Anyways, I want to add one more note and say that I'm not here for sympathy. No one owes me anything, I made a mistake and now I have to deal with it. Everything is earned. Just my two cents.

[69_500]

Well just one more comment here before I get off of here for the night. I did meet my wife on the internet. We chatter on AOL for a long time before we actually met. neither of us was looking for a relationship, it just happened.

[Darkness]

That's cool 69 500. Some people actually had luck and you were the chose one. As for the rest of us, we've not been so lucky. I've dated and been friends with quite a few women from the internet who turned out to be not what I expected them to be. But, I'm glad it worked for you and some of the others as well. Take care.

[myk]

I'm normally wary of anything on the 'net that claims to improve your life in ANY way, but I get regular e-mails from this site and it's free and it definitely makes sense...
http://www.doubleyourdatingresources.com/e/10020/AttractionBook/

[Darkness]

Thanks for the information man but, that's just it. I've had these girls come to me. Not me to them. Anyways, thanks though.

[derailed]

Dont worry your not alone, I think most of us have gone through that stage, nothing that the old spankvision cant fix for awhile

[TruckDriver]

I just want to say DodgeChargerGuy, I'm sorry to hear about your experiences. It sucks but, at least you had two boys come out of the deal. Hopefully, you get to see them every now and then. Anyways, sorry you've had a lot of bad experiences.

Thanks, and as far as my boys... I am primary custody holder. They live with me full time and go to Florida by the ex over Christmas (3 weeks), spring break(2 weeks) and summer break 2-1/2 months.

[Darkness]

Thanks again. Glad to hear you have the boys in your custody. Like I said you have a blessing that came out of your relationship with her and that was your two sons. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you but, I just wanted you to know I can relate to your situation.

[moparguy01]

Been there done that man. we're on the same page. cept i probably drink more.
I've learned not to rush into it, and honestly, as much as it'd be nice to have a girlfriend now, without one i spend more money and time doing things i want to, and its a nice feeling to finally get some things that I want.
theres lots of hot college chicks out here in fargo though, maybe you should come out here.

[Blown70]

theres lots of hot college chicks out here in fargo though, maybe you should come out here.

UHHH you in the same fargo I am in,  Well I guess maybe I am older and do not go out as much....

have you had a lot to drink when you see these hot women?

Just Kidding

Tom

[Darkness]

moparguy01, nah that's okay. I need to focus on saving some money, finishing my education, and getting a house. But, as for now. With all the drama I went through. No thanks and you said some stuff about college chicks I agree whole heart with on the phone. Crazy stuff. I have a lot of stories I could tell about my experiences with these females up here but, I won't go into that. Let's just say I've never went really looking for them or even put an effort. They've came to me. Anyways, thing I didn't wasn't the smartest move and not the correct thing but, I'd rather have them think this way then to have to chase them out of my house with a lug wrench but, that's another story I'll share with folks sometime.

[Silver R/T]

I say once one of them lies to you NEVER trust her again, been proven that myself.

[Darkness]

Well you got a point there. It's hard to trust anyone now a days.

[472 R/T SE]

One day you'll look back on all this and shake your head wondering how you got yourself into such predicaments.

[moparguy01]

theres lots of hot college chicks out here in fargo though, maybe you should come out here.

UHHH you in the same fargo I am in,  Well I guess maybe I am older and do not go out as much....

have you had a lot to drink when you see these hot women?

Just Kidding

Tom

they hang around on the college campuses and usually are bitching and moaning about some politically correct crap, or something like that, i dont really pay attention.....haha

[Spartan]

Well, you don't have to be an a-hole but don't be their doormat either.     And some girls love to create their own drama, that they are always victims in a relationship,   those types are never worth the hassle.   My wife's sister is as high maintenance as they come, always the victim, always the one done wrong,   she has created all her problems herself and wants everyone to bail her out.   I told my wife to stay away from her drama and not get sucked.   I have allot of moral issues the way she conducts herself.   You don't need to be around chicks like that. Saying you died wasn't the cool way to get rid of it though.

[Darkness]

Spartan you have a very good point there and thanks for sharing the story with us on the board here. The biggest reason I sent out the email is because technically I do not exsist by the name those people knew me. I am getting my first name changed and I have already changed my phone #. In addition, if any of you all knew what I've had to endure in the past year, here's one of the many stories of what happened to me.

Yeah I've had it happen a lot. Sad thing is I can't go out anymore without looking over my shoulder in certain places anyways. I don't bother anyone, I keep to myself, and try not to cause drama. Maybe I am the one with the problem but, I've been nice and understanding. Time for a change a plans and try to defend myself if needed without hurting someone of course.
Anyways, sometimes if you scare people they will leave you alone. I had my prior roommate bust into my apartment while I was sleeping one night. This was after I had kicked her out and I had all of her stuff up in the garage since I live here in the lower level. She had a key to the door upstairs. Unfournately, she decided be in the door down here and I wake up to her being in my room here yelling at me. She comes busting in and I instantly go into flight mode. She comes in the kitchen to grab food and I'm like get out or I'll call the cops. She looks at me and I pop out the phone and dial 911. She was like no. Then I took a can of food from the table and throw it right next to her intentionally missing her. She looks up at me like what the heck and I give her the look get out now or else. She saw that I was so angry that I was shaking. Then, I got my tire iron from my bed and followed her back up to the stairs where I watched her until she got all of her stuff back out of the garage and she turned in her key. She and her friend left and I watched them until I saw them turn off the street and head back to hear Aunt's Place.
Neither one of them has bothered me but, her current b/f wants to kick my but because she didn't tell him that she cheated on him and she specifically told me in a conversation that he didn't need to know neither did the other guy until I decided that he needed to know but, he kind of knew already from someone else. So, that was one reason why she had to go. And that's just one story. I've have plenty of others.

[Darkness]

Yes, while you have a point Spartan I am technically gone since I getting my first name changed to one of middle names. Technically and legally ( on paper) I am no longer that person and no one knows my middle name. As crazy as it sounds this is the sane and best thing I can do for myself.   In addition, this girl is being crazy about how she wants me to die. I think its time to get the police involved and file a report against since I have a feeling from her statement thing could get uglier.

[Nupe]

What a train wreck this post is!    Sorry to hear about your problems 89vert, but you need to get rid of the psycho ASAP.  Don't change your name or anything because of her.

The A-hole thing works for a while on young girls but eventally they get fed up with the jerks and start looking for the nice guys.

Sucks being nice.  All the chicks I meet looking for the "nice guy" always date the worst a-holes available.  They love it.  Biggest problem around here is this state is a sausage festival.  Probably a 5 to 1 ratio of men to women.     It's almost like I should take a number when meeting someone new.

[Darkness]

nupe, thanks for the kind words. Actually she isn't the only one. There's some females like this. Like I said one wants me to die in a car wreck, the other has her b/f that wants to beat me, and well the rest fall somewhere in between.

[69_500]

Seems to me that you have a lot going on in your life Vert.

I don't think its a good thing to try to change your name and remain in the same place. If your so worried about something to change your name, then i'd just leave that town and move on. Running away from problems never solves them though.

[69_500]

It also seems that you have a bit of an anger management problem as well. Throwing a can of food at a roommate, intentionally missing them or not is not the right thing to do. Neither is following them with a tire iron.

[Darkness]

Nevermind. I'll just let it go.

[gsmopar]

That's just toooo much reading!  Can you just post some pics of them with the associated story next to each.  That way I can just read about the hot ones!   

[69_500]

Was just making an observation, but when a person read about someone throwing stuff at a room mate, or following them with a tire iron, it tends to put a thought in your head.

[Darkness]

69 500 you have a point there but, the thing is she was told not to come into this area of the house and she was neither granted access to come into the house unless I was present. She did neither and walked into my room while I was sleeping and started yelling at me. She was told to get out three times in a nice manner and I even threatened to call the cops and then she started mouthing off again. She had no reason too especially when she was the one who trespassing. She had been kicked out prior. But, anyways that's all I'm gonna say about that because I felt she posed a threat since I didn't know if anyone was outside or not. At least she left me alone. Anyways, thanks to all who replied to this thread. I'll probably just lay low for the winter perhaps. I need a break from this anyways.