UPDATE: HE BACK. Had To Install an Alarm System in Garage

[terrible one]

He has 2 large boxes of reading material (Hustler, Penthouse, Variations??). Can I get an opening bid

Sell them on Ebay..I sold a Hustler Readers wives mag some guy gave me at work and got $12.

The value drops drasticly when the pages are stuck together

LMAO!

[NHCharger]

I get home from work @ 7PM last Friday (another 12+ hour day). My wife tells me we need to pick up Dave at the bus station in 1 hour  I said go by yourself and he ain't staying here. My wife feels sorry for him so on Sunday he sleeps on our sun porch. By Tuesday night he's now sleeping in our spare bedroom. The reason he is here is that he is going through all the belongings in his shed, going to sell all the "good stuff" and move down to North Carolina where all the jobs are.

So last night I'm getting washed up for supper, I hear Dave come in and talk to the wife, as I come into the kitchen I see my wife's car heading down the road.
Me: WTF?
Wife: Dave needed a ride to the store to buy cigarette's and since I was getting supper ready he borrowed the car .
Me:Does your brother have any auto insurance?
Wife: (In a flippant reply) Probably not.
I can not type the next 5 minutes of conversation since this is a family site. When Dave got back and admitted he had no insurance i told him he was never to drive one of our fucki#g cars again and stormed out of the house and spent the next 4 hours in my shop.

This is the latest saga. Last July Dave quit his machinist job up here and moved to NC and pitched a tent in his son's (Corey)backyard. Corey booted him after he found Dave doing drugs, Corey has 3 young kids. Dave moves in with his sister in Pensacola, FLA and promises to clean up and get a job, she kicked him out last week since the only job he found was mowing the lawn at the bar for free beer She gave him $300.00 (and she's struggling to keep her house since her husband left her and refuses to help with the payment). Dave heads back to Corey's, bike breaks down 200 miles from Corey's, Dave has already burned through all the money, Corey goes to pick him and the bike up. (Dave ran the bike out of oil and blew the motor). Corey gives Dave $100.00 and bus ticket to here (thanks Corey).

My wife just got off the phone with Corey and her sister. She is beside herself. Dave has giving everyone a different story on what he's going to do. I told her every time she offers him something it just means it's that much longer he will stay here. She finally has accepted the fact that Dave is a "professional moocher". She also knows that this has put a huge strain on our marriage. I have not had a vacation since I started my new job three years ago so I have NO tolerance for someone like Dave. She finally agreed that Sunday morning we are giving him the boot. I do feel a little guilty but at what point do you say enough? My other bro-in-law (the good one) suggested we all pitch in and each give him $100.00 to send him back to N.C. I said that's exactly what Dave is hoping for. I'm afraid it's time to cut the cord for good.

BTW, the roof of his shed collapsed last winter and his prized collection of smut got ruining.

Rant off, thanks for letting me vent.

[skip68]

You can't pick your family,....... and sometimes,...unfortunatly,  family sucks!!!! Trust me, we know! Sorry for your stress and sorrow. Feel free to vent anytime here, we're here for you!

Mrs.Skip68

[Charger_Fan]

I'm afraid it's time to cut the cord for good.

I bet the only way that's gonna happen is after he's dead, unfortunately.
Glad you posted though, I feel a little better about my life right now. "The best way to forget your troubles is to listen to someone else's"...well, it worked!

Here's hoping Sunday goes well for you.

[greenpigs]

Sounds sorta familiar but my wifes worthless brother hits her up for money/loans.

[nh_mopar_fan]

Geez Brian.

WTF. Sorry to hear he's back. I think that as much as you hate to, I'd buy the bus ticket and tell him to NOT come back and ship him south again.

What a loser.

[69DodgeCharger]

Hmmmmmm, Drugs, Bikers, Thieves, Bar Whores, Legal Troubles, Lies, Promises.......I agree with the bus ticket and a "small" amount of cash to get him back down south to wherever he needs to go (and stay). Did you say this guy was in his 40's? And he still can't get it together? Then I am guessing he never will. Or that if he does it will have to be on his own. Be prepared for the big emotional anger outburst about how your just throwing him out into the street. (seems he was in the street before you let him stay) This guy is just a nightmare waiting to happen. How long before he steals something to pay a drug debt? How long before some people (drug dealers/bikers) he wronged show up at your house to "collect" Who's to say he's not doing and or selling drugs right now? You know where this is all going. Today is a new day for Bro to start a new life.......somewhere else. Although I would say he's welcome back anytime he's clean and sober and employed without legal troubles.....and has his own place to stay!

[NHCharger]

Gave Dave to word this afternoon that he can no longer stay with us. A friend promised him a temporary bike but that never happened. After supper I asked him if he called his other friend about staying there for the night, "Oh I forgot" was the reply. I went in and told my wife, call your parents he ain't staying here tonight. They just picked him up and they ain't happy.

The wife is now feeling guilty, Dave's a master at that. She said it would make more sense for him to stay here while he cleans out his shed. Since his shed is next to my shop I keep an eye on him. He has spent quite a few hours reading his Easy Rider mags while chain smoking his butts. This shed is only 10x16, how can it take eight days to go through it
Dave is 55 y.o. He is just a shell of the guy that I met 28 years ago when I was dating my wife. Just goes to show you what drugs will do.

[69DodgeCharger]

I figured after the roof  cave in over the winter the clean out of the shed would go a bit faster....don't let your wife guilt you into letting him come back around unless he's clean (sober). employed, has housing, and not facing legal charges......and see how it goes from there.

[General_01]

Sounds like a guy who fell on hard times, but needs the boot to get his stuff together. Don't feel guilty.

I will tell you this. I have a brother-in-law who is on his 3rd marriage. I almost came to blows with him right in front of his parents and my wife. His 2nd wife was in a minor accident(they were still married). My wife and I showed up and all he could do was piss and moan because he didn't know what kind of damage was done to the car, who the other person was, etc. His parents, my in-laws, were backing him up and talking crap about his wife because they didn't like her. I told them all straight out that they were being total a##wipes. They had no concern for her, just how it affected them. He walked across the yard to get in my face and try to scare me. I stepped right up to him and told him to "Go ahead. I've been waiting for this for 10 years." He backed down and never got in my face or talked crap about his wife around me again. It has been about 6 years since that day. In that time, his family has come to realize that the women he meets are not the issue. My wife and I are still friends with his 2nd wife Lori.

I guess what I am saying is to stand your ground. Make sure your wife and his family know you are not making this decision because you personally dislike him, but because his choices put your family's safety at risk. His family may not like what you are doing now, but they will respect the fact that you are making decisions to keep your family safe. Eventually they will come around. Sounds like you already have other family members who will back you up on this.

I find it funny that his parents were not happy. Was that because they thought you were being unreasonable or because they had to take him to their house now.

[69DodgeCharger]

Sounds like a guy who fell on hard times,

Sounds more like a guy who jumped into them them headlong. knowing family and friends had plenty of rope to pull him out.

[TeeWJay426]

Geez, Brian, didn't know you were such a drama queen.......

Seriously though, sounds like you did the best thing by washing your hands of this loser for good. Had no idea you were having these issues- hopefully, they are permanently behind you. If he hasn't got his act together by the age of 55, it's a pretty safe bet he won't ever get it together.

[Ranger Max]

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[dodgecharger-fan]

Take him out drinking in another town, get him stinkin drunk, and leave him there.

I had that guy walk up the middle my street last year. All he kept saying was, "Where the hell am I?" "what city am I in?"
I went to talk to him, but it was like I was invisible. He looked right at me - so I thought - and kept walking and yelling.

Had to call the cops on him. I don't think he was trouble, but he wasn't in any shape to keep going.