Teenagers....

[Old Moparz]

We'll see about the spyware. This claims to be totally invisible. It will not show up anywhere. The only way to access it is to click 4 keys together which you would never click together and then enter a password.

the best part, I do not need to get on his laptop to get a report. It will email me a report as often as I choose.

Darryl, use "I_love_the_Yankees" as a password, he'll never expect it. 

[nh_mopar_fan]

Never in a million years would he get that one.

[Orange_Crush]

We talked yesterday. I told him that I was on his laptop the other night and the message came up and what was up with her. I know this girl, I have met her. He said that yeah, she and his friend Ryan had had sex and she was worried. We spoke about what the implications were of having sex at this point in his life and how some mistakes you pay for for a very long time.

After we had spoken about that, I told him I was loading the software. Told him that we trust him abd that he'sa godd kid it wasn't to spy on him but that there are sites that he shouldn't be on at his age and there are a lot of pervs and predators out there and we need to know what is happening. He bitched and complained. We went out to dinner (it was my b-day yesterday) and he was really quiet for a while.

We had a nice dinner and when we got back he said "Dad, I understand about the software. It's ok with me."

Now, here's a question, would you tell the parents of the girl what is going on? I don't want to get into the middle of this but I feel like I should tell them with the understanding that they cannot say that it came from me. Is is being naive to think that I could remain anonymous?

NOT IN A MILLION YEARS!

This is none of your business.  If you don't want your kid to hang out w/ her...fine.  But if you go and do that, she will figure it out (because your son will probably tell her). 

They may already know their daughter is having sex (if they're not A. In denial or B, idiots.

I have pretty much resigned myself to the fact that my daughter will have sex before she's married (if she's anything like me, she'll have it before she's licensed to drive).  The only thing that I can do is try to teach her right from wrong, explain the possible consequences of a bad decision, and make sure she knows what "protection" is available to her.  My kid's gonna have sex when she wants to whether I want her too or not.  Hopefully, if I do my job as a parent properly, she will carefully weigh her options and the possible consequences and make the right decision.

I DO know that if I am a raving asshole about it, she'll do it just to piss me off (because that's just the kind of kid I have).  I know my daughter, and I know the workings of her mind.  She is the type of kid who responds to a soft touch and a logical explanation.  If I get pendantic, she'll wind up cooking meth with some member of a biker gang.

In any case, my daughter'll probably be gay anyways (she hates girl stuff) and then I won't have to worry about it (I've prepared for ALL possibilities).

[nh_mopar_fan]

If not expecting your 14 yr old daughter to not be having sex at 14 is being "in denial", I fear for the future.

We're talking 14 years old for cripes sake!

By the way, I'm not going to say anything. My ex says she may talk to the girl directly.

[Ponch ®]

Dude, don't get involved. It's none of your bidness and you're just gonna be causing yourself and your son a lot of aggravation (assuming he has a social life, youre just gonna ruin it for him).

[nh_mopar_fan]

*DUDE* 

I'm not. I just said I wasn't.