More bad news I got today

[TruckDriver]

I really don't know how to say this to my extended family, and in fact it still has not sunk in yet.


But tonight, my 25yo girlfriend of 2 years, and the girl I hope to spend the rest of my life with, told me that she may have cervical cancer. The last test they found three cancer cells after her pap smear, and now I guess they found a few more. She didn't need this as she is already dealing with some other issues with her ex-boyfriend who is fighting her for full custody for her 2 kids. Needless to say, she is feeling down in the dumps. I'm going to be there for her all the way. Maybe this is what I was placed on this earth for. I don't know, but I hope that I can survive this too considering how this past spring and summer was to me. And I hope I didn't seem cold to her when she told me as I simply didn't know how to react as I never had to deal with cancer before. I'm not asking for anything, but I hope you all understand my need to vent this.

Pete

[Dans 68]

Hang in there for her. My prayers are with you all.

Dan

[Drache]

I hope everything comes out ok. Cancer runs in my family (both grandmothers, mother, aunt, etc) so if you ever need someone to talk to I'm here....

[mikepmcs]

Pete,
Exactly, right now you can just be a sounding board and a broad shoulder to take up the load(whatever that may be)
If it were me, I'd be doing all kinds of research and learning everything I could just to have an idea and be able to communicate with your loved one and Doc's alike.
Don't dwell on your reaction, it has come and gone.  All you can do now is show your love and support.  If the ex has any brains, he would support her as well in this difficult time.  Maybe if you are on speaking terms with him you two could discuss it.  Attitude has a lot to do with illness and she doesn't need any negative vibes if you get my drift.

v/r
Mike

[jackel440]

prayers are in for you.Like you said maybe thats the reason your there.Just be there for her and support her.

[bull]

Sorry to her it, Pete. I'll be praying for your situation.

[89MOPAR]

  If it is any consolation to you and her, at least she has been able to have children already.
  An ex-girlfriend i had from long ago, had cervical / ovarian problems , and was told she would Never concieve.

  Let her know what you said- concerning you didn't mean to seem uncaring but didn't know how to react.
   best thing you can do is be there for her on a day to day basis.

[Chris]

My prayers are with you guys...........

[400/6/PAC]

My Sister beat it, You Guy's can too.
My Prayers are with You.

[elanmars]

I hope everything turns out fine for your gal, best thing you can do is be there for her and do the best you can.

[Charger_Fan]

I hope the best for both of you, that's the sort of news nobody hopes to hear.
I also hope they were able to catch it early enough to be able to fix it.

[hemi68charger]

By the shear fact  you're thinking about it is a plus for her.... All you can do is be there for her when she needs support and help.......... I too have beat cancer and it's her turn.........   Best wishes and luck to her and yourself in dealing with this........ She must be besided herself with anxiety over the possibility of fighting cancer and her kids... If ya'll weren't into a church, now might be the time to gather some peace-of-mind.......... I never was a person to go to church growing up, but now I look forward to it each Sunday...

Have faith................

Troy

[Neal_J]

My bride had ovarian cancer when she was just 19.  The chance of surviving her particular type of tumor is 1 in 1,000.  If they don't kill you first, the radiation and chemo make conception highly unlikely thereafter.  Twenty five years and five kids later, I'd submit that miracles can, and do, occur.  As others have said, keep the faith.

BTW, to anyone with a wife or daughter they care about, have them get the HPV vaccine (Gardasil).  It prevent the virus that causes much of the cervical cancer.

Best, Neal