Is there some way to get your love back?

[Nacho-RT74]

This year has being really hard to me. Lot of problems at home with my father and brother ( drugs and alcohol ), country is, well you know... several problems at job made me decide to quit and now I'm "freelance" ( really risky at these days ). But you know guys, that everything would be really easy to survive if the woman I have loved in last two years really come back to me.

Unfortunally she left the country 5 days ago ( fortunatelly to Spain ), and was on a new relationship since some months ago. I have kept a gap with her, but honestly I still dream with her. I really love her.

I have lost the faith in God ( sorry to say that, but i'm having really big doubts about everything latelly ). Is the only kind of "miracle" I have requested in my life... always related about my relationships. Never have got any kind of feedback from "God"

Really, seriouslly love her. I dream her back with me not to far in the time.

Sorry, just needed to vent it out! This is really depressing.

[XH29N0G]

The situation stinks, and I'm really sorry to hear. It will take some time,but hang in there. I can say you're appreciated on this forum and expect that others here share the same opinion. Sorry I don't write more. I just don't know what else can be said that would make anything any better.


Time will heal.

[Kern Dog]

I was still in love with my 1st wife when she moved out. I later saw that move as a blessing. She wasn't as great as I thought she was. Her leaving opened up so many new possibilities to meet someone much better. I have been with the love of my life for 17 years and counting.

If the hope of a better tomorrow is too hard to grasp, you can do what others do....BOOZE and drugs. 

[AKcharger]

Sorry to hear that Nacho. I would suggest a host of tips and tricks but if she's not even in the country I'm no help. The only thing I can offer on the God angle is do not discount "un-answered prayer" just like a parent doesn't answer every request of their children neither does God...and for very good reasons. I know of countless examples of things I wanted, prayed about and didn't get...and got something better or saw how it was good I didn't get what I asked for! (Except the '70 440-6 pack Coronet R/T I could have bought in 1981 for $600)

[Tilar]

I have lost the faith in God ( sorry to say that, but i'm having really big doubts about everything latelly ). Is the only kind of "miracle" I have requested in my life... always related about my relationships. Never have got any kind of feedback from "God"

Don't lose your faith in God.  Whether you believe it or not God answers prayers,  Sometimes the answer is No.  You also have to understand that sometimes God takes someone out of your life because he has other plans for you.  

[polywideblock]

sorry to hear about your troubles ,no easy fix . 

as far as god goes I'm a confirmed atheist , but as our local priest used to say " everyone says there is no god!! ,he never listens to me . sure he does he just says NO "

just keep plodding along and hope that your mo-jo comes back 

[Mytur Binsdirti]

Use your other hand; it feels like someone else is doing it.

[Ponch ®]

Use your other hand; it feels like someone else is doing it.

that's it. no more posts needed.

[JB400]

Go to church, and see what happens.

[Nacho-RT74]

Go to church, and see what happens.

doing it... but never got any feedback in the past on this same situation, so, there is a reason to have lost the faith and hope in God.

being she moved maybe the actual relationship can get in troubles, who knows.

Her mother ( who appreciatte me, and she moved to her mother's home in Alicante, Spain ) told me don't loose the hope and keep the friendship with her, 'cause the distance can be a big thermometer, distance can break and/or join the ppl.

I know she really appreciatte me, but this year has being a constant coming and going moments of disencounters

[Nacho-RT74]

I have lost the faith in God ( sorry to say that, but i'm having really big doubts about everything latelly ). Is the only kind of "miracle" I have requested in my life... always related about my relationships. Never have got any kind of feedback from "God"

Don't lose your faith in God.  Whether you believe it or not God answers prayers,  Sometimes the answer is No.  You also have to understand that sometimes God takes someone out of your life because he has other plans for you. 

how many times a NO?... I dunno really anymore.

you know, I'm 41 YO, and this is not what I dreamed at my age. Single, no children, without my own home.

I'm not feeling any good.

BTW, My Charger still at body shop ( 3 and a half years now for, whatever reason... ) and my parents car, 8 months to JUST rebuild an engine and some other minimal stuff.

Everything seems to be blocked all around my life.

[CRW-FK5]

Hang in there, man.  I can't relate to your experience but I do know that you're not alone.  Break-ups are usually tough on someone but you end up getting through it with time.  The God thing is a tough one, too.  I'm still seeking answers myself on that front.  Difficult to believe, however, that there isn't some overall plan when you take the time and consider the wonders that science continues to uncover and that you see in your everyday life.

Good luck and stay close to your friends during this tough time.  You will get through.

[djcarguy]

Sorry to hear,but those gals will stay with ya a yr or two planning an saving an even getting a new guy to move off with while still with you. an the kid thing is way over rated,fun when their young,but gaint pain latter.

    i dont get direct answers from god , but looking back iam still here an still believe. aren't you into photo taking? snap some shots of a sun set or water falls.  

      light a fire at repair shop get parents car back,an then your charger..

   as to her,getting her back    sleeping dart gun an car with big trunk?? hope that at least made ya laugh or grin. take care an focus on friends an cars ,,it will get better or ease with some time.Me 2 divorces , grown kids i rarely get to see an 57..       make some fun plans an get ya cars back/....  lattter DJ--depression thread??

[Nacho-RT74]

 

this is a real feeling... deep, really honest, pure, inocent. Real Love

[XH29N0G]

Looks that way.  Your note brings back my own memories. 

I expect it will be a hard time, and can be a long time.  That is normal, but don't give up hope. 

In the end, I was a little wiser and lucky and found someone else who was perfect for me.  I know think even more perfect.  I hope the same works out for you.  But I went through a whole series of collateral problems along the way.  It will be good if you can keep your head straight enough to avoid those.

[Kern Dog]

That is a good looking couple.

[Ponch ®]

Look, its tough. Been there. But no woman is irreplaceable or worth this much aggravation and pain. Unless she did anal, then maybe you could make a case for it.

[Dino]

Nacho I'm real sorry to hear about all the pain you're going through but I think the best thing to do is move on. She left, she made that choice, that's the end of it. As painful as it is, it's time to let go.

As far as religion goes, that's a personal decision nobody else can help you with. The believer will try to keep you in that camp, the atheist would tell you to face fact. But it's up to you to decide if you're a man of faith or a man of fact. Nobody else can make that call for you.

Nobody else can tell you what to do with the girl situation either of course, but it's a little more straightforward. Still, take our advice knowing that we're not experts on the matter, they are just well meant opinions. Stay strong my friend.

[Kern Dog]

Look, its tough. Been there. Unless she did anal, then maybe you could make a case for it.

I have never had any urge for that. I really do not see the need when the original recipe is so great!

[Ponch ®]

Look, its tough. Been there. Unless she did anal, then maybe you could make a case for it.

I have never had any urge for that. I really do see the need when the original recipe is so great!

I love pizza, but i couldnt possibly have it for dinner every night. #varietyisthespiceoflife

[ACUDANUT]

Nacho, your still young. Find another Fish in the sea.  Make sure She is in her 30's and have a Son or Daughter.  This will change your life forever.
Go to Church and pray, pray and pray some more.. Find a support system there. Join a singles group at Church and find a better women.
This worked for me when my 1st wife left me. Hell, I almost killed myself.
http://www.dodgecharger.com/forum/index.php/topic,96647.0.html#top

[HANDM]

Remember that God isn't omnipotent, he's omnipresent. When you pray, don't ask God for something, you ask for it to to be put in your path to be picked up by you or tripped over or hit in the head with............you get the idea

[Mytur Binsdirti]

Unless she did anal, then maybe you could make a case for it.

I think someone who was flexible like a gymnast would be more fun.     

[BrianShaughnessy]

Here's the 5 basic steps to relationships ending..

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance

Sorry but it seems you're stuck in the middle.     Good luck.   

[Daytona R/T SE]

Nacho,

1. Pussy is evil.

2. It makes you do stupid shit.

3. She's gone.

4. Even if she tries, Don't let her come back...She's damaged goods at this point.

5. The only way to get over this is to fuck something else...repeatedly.

6. Revenge fucks are best.

7. Bang her best friend, worst friend, sister, cousin and maybe even her mother...

8. Stab anything you can.

9. Brag about it...to everybody.



On a side note...

I had a similar situation many years ago.

I recently realized that if I had killed the little bitch back in 1982 when I really wanted to...

I'd probably be out of jail by now...

[Ponch ®]

Nacho,

1. Pussy is evil.

2. It makes you do stupid shit.

3. She's gone.

4. Even if she tries, Don't let her come back...She's damaged goods at this point.

5. The only way to get over this is to fuck something else...repeatedly.

6. Revenge fucks are best.

6. Bang her best friend, worst friend, sister, cousin and maybe even her mother...

7. Stab anything you can.

8. Brag about it...to everybody.

[Mytur Binsdirti]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTvU3BELZEo

[Daytona R/T SE]

Nacho,

1. Pussy is evil.

2. It makes you do stupid shit.

3. She's gone.

4. Even if she tries, Don't let her come back...She's damaged goods at this point.

5. The only way to get over this is to fuck something else...repeatedly.

6. Revenge fucks are best.

7. Bang her best friend, worst friend, sister, cousin and maybe even her mother...

8. Stab anything you can.

9. Brag about it...to everybody.

[Paul G]

As much as you may love someone else, you can not make that person love back if that person doesnt feel it. It just wont happen. When it is time to move on, you must move on. If love is not mutual, it just wont work no matter how hard you try.

Focus on the positive things in your life. Put that woman in the past where she belongs. She may be a good person, but not good for you. 

[odcics2]

This explains everything. EXCELLANT movie!  Here's the trailer.
Ricky even explains religion.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVR2-W8OdVE

[Tilar]

I have lost the faith in God ( sorry to say that, but i'm having really big doubts about everything latelly ). Is the only kind of "miracle" I have requested in my life... always related about my relationships. Never have got any kind of feedback from "God"

Don't lose your faith in God.  Whether you believe it or not God answers prayers,  Sometimes the answer is No.  You also have to understand that sometimes God takes someone out of your life because he has other plans for you. 

how many times a NO?... I dunno really anymore.

you know, I'm 41 YO, and this is not what I dreamed at my age. Single, no children, without my own home.

I'm not feeling any good.

BTW, My Charger still at body shop ( 3 and a half years now for, whatever reason... ) and my parents car, 8 months to JUST rebuild an engine and some other minimal stuff.

Everything seems to be blocked all around my life.

I can understand that. After being a mechanic for 43 years and never losing a job in my life that I didn't want to leave,  I am right now out of a job and every direction I turn seems to be blocked. That tells me that God has another plan for me, I just haven't figured it out yet lol... But it will come when he is ready.

Since you're not feeling good about things, like you saying "Single, no children, without my own home", I suggest you get on your feet, Start with a home if that's what you want, BUT above all things you have to be happy with yourself before you will EVER be happy with someone else. Even if you loved this girl, if you're not happy with the direction your own life is going then all your going to do is drag down the relationship, probably not intentionally or even knowingly, but it's never going to work until your happy with yourself.

You're a smart man Nacho, I've seen your posts on here and even with me being a mechanic for so many years, you've helped me out in situations through your posts here. Put that knowledge to work and get yourself taken care of because you'll never be able to take care of someone else if you can't take care of yourself.

As much as you may love someone else, you can not make that person love back if that person doesnt feel it. It just wont happen. When it is time to move on, you must move on. If love is not mutual, it just wont work no matter how hard you try.

Focus on the positive things in your life. Put that woman in the past where she belongs. She may be a good person, but not good for you. 

Exactly.

[Ponch ®]

I'll be level with you. If you want any shot at having her back, you need to stop acting like a pussy about it and move on. Its the only way.

Now... its been already pointed out..why would you even want her back at this point? She ditched you. Shes damaged goods. But shes sure as hell not gonna come back unless you man up. Do you think she wants to be with a guy who mopes all the time? No, she wants a man...(or a bigger penis...in which case you may be out of luck), not a whimpering baby. And believe you me, she knows...i bet youve been calling her, texting, emailing, and seen stuff on social media. Theres nothing a woman disdains more than a dude who loses his shit. So show her that you dont care, and as advised, start banging everything that moves.

TL; DR: you dont want her back, but she definitely wont unless you get over it.

[Laowho]

I'll be level with you. If you want any shot at having her back, you need to stop acting like a pussy about it and move on. Its the only way.

Now... its been already pointed out..why would you even want her back at this point? She ditched you. Shes damaged goods. But shes sure as hell not gonna come back unless you man up. Do you think she wants to be with a guy who mopes all the time? No, she wants a man...(or a bigger penis...in which case you may be out of luck), not a whimpering baby. And believe you me, she knows...i bet youve been calling her, texting, emailing, and seen stuff on social media. Theres nothing a woman disdains more than a dude who loses his shit. So show her that you dont care, and as advised, start banging everything that moves.

TL; DR: you dont want her back, but she definitely wont unless you get over it.

Gotta agree. You're pondering a lose-lose situation. That, or reconsider/broaden your notion of love. Sounds like you're really in your head about things, so as long as you're there, why not do some real thinking? You can begin as simply as by deconstructing this edifice you've buried yourself under, by not giving a single assumption anywhere to hide. You're a wrench? What's your analogy to an engine in all of this, and why/how is that still supposed to work?

[redgum78]

Hey Nacho.

Sounds like you are caught in a spiral that is chewing up all you confidence and making you feel like rubbish. I don't think God is going to step in, you need to step out.
Your posts over the years have helped many of people (including me) with their 3rd Gen issues and prove that you are very intelligent. Don't let your emotions get in the way of your better judgement.

You will be ok. Find something that you like doing and do more of that!

[birdsandbees]

Nacho.. just in from a long bout of plowing snow using one arm... Meat Loaf - "2 out of 3's not bad" came on the radio and I cranked it up. There's a lot of merit in the lyrics... Pull it up on your music player, crank it up and give what old Meat says a thought. 

[Old Moparz]

Don't you have a car to work on anyway?

[odcics2]

I'll be level with you. If you want any shot at having her back, you need to stop acting like a pussy about it and move on. Its the only way.

Now... its been already pointed out..why would you even want her back at this point? She ditched you. Shes damaged goods. But shes sure as hell not gonna come back unless you man up. Do you think she wants to be with a guy who mopes all the time? No, she wants a man...(or a bigger penis...in which case you may be out of luck), not a whimpering baby. And believe you me, she knows...i bet youve been calling her, texting, emailing, and seen stuff on social media. Theres nothing a woman disdains more than a dude who loses his shit. So show her that you dont care, and as advised, start banging everything that moves.

TL; DR: you dont want her back, but she definitely wont unless you get over it.

[Mytur Binsdirti]

[Nacho-RT74]

some answers to your guess

I have being lurcking in her social media ? yes and no... she is a professional actress ( TV and theater ), so she got public profiles here and there. Yes I have seen some, but their private stuff is blocked ( Fb ) and I put my own also private. I have known she has being also asking to hers friends what I have being posting. Why do you search about me if you really don't care about me ?

We have blocked each other on whatsapp several times allong the year. No constant mesagges or any kind of texting, just some times on the year.

Emails? maybe 4 or 5 all the year.

Last night got a nice voice messagge through Whatsapp from her. I still didn't have hers phone number in Spain since she left untill last night ( nice Christmass present ) when decided to contact me. I decided keep her number, but not save it on my phone... yet, so she can't see what I post on my Whatsapp profile.

I have looked some desesperated quite often on her eyes? yes... but Have had my distance with her too.

this has being a come and go process, somehow mutual

[Paul G]

Nacho, Because of the language barrier, I hope the phrase,"play hard to get" translates over. What it means is to back away from the other person in the relationship. If she cares for you, and you back away from her, playing hard to get, she will try harder to find you, if she is really interested that is.

They say, "absence makes the heart grow fonder", which means that if you turn and walk away from her, and she is feeling the loss of your friendship and love, her heart will want you even more.

If she thinks you are ready to let go of this relationship and move on, and in her heart she wants to stay with you, what do you think she would do then? 

When you do these things, you will know if she is serious about you, or just toying with you. I wish you the best my friend.

Remember, the person who loves the least, has the most control. 

[Nacho-RT74]

I got the phrase... at the end is make her harder will increase the interest, because will find she could be loosing me. I have being playing with that sometimes with her. Sometimes better sometimes worst. That's why I have not added into my cell phone. She won't be able to see me on line or my status and pic at WA due my privacy.

She is also playing somehow too. As soon she messaged me, a few minutes later changed her WA pic with one where she appears with the actual guy she was datting in Vzla. funny, huh ? OOOOH the artist world!!! and add she is A WOMAN!!! even more fun

[djcarguy]

Happy holidays an to a better NEW year too you.  hows the weather down there sunny i hope.   have a good day and plan for a good New Year..     I have --   BEEN -- trying to make plans an be up beat for a new year to get here.


               Take care,how's the cars coming alone??  latter DJ  

[Ponch ®]

I have known she has being also asking to hers friends what I have being posting. Why do you search about me if you really don't care about me ?

Too feed her own ego? Take pleasure in your suffering? 

If she cared, this whole thing wouldnt be a thing.

[Nacho-RT74]

She doesn't need to feed any ego. So is not that.

You are right though about this shouldn't be a thing, but trust me, she is somehow weird.

[polywideblock]

this shouldn't be a thing, but trust me, she is somehow weird.


   your only working that out now      trust me their ALL weird   

[Ponch ®]

She doesn't need to feed any ego. So is not that.

You are right though about this shouldn't be a thing, but trust me, she is somehow weird.

[c00nhunterjoe]

Single, no kids, and you own a mopar....... dude, she left the country. Drink some beer, finish your car, and go pick up a hot car girl in it. Trust me when i say it works. Been there, done it.... with kids. Loving life now.

[Nacho-RT74]

You know? she loved my car when we known maybe 8 years ago... she is a car lover too. Hard to find around here. She rebuilt an engine with his father sometime ago

[ACUDANUT]

Nacho, she does not care about you.  Forget her and move on.  Never let a women control your emotions or thoughts.  You will lose. Look at Adam and Eve.  You think she was after Adam's best interest. ??

[RCCDrew]

Just from my perspective, the best course of action would have been to not lose her in the first place. Relationships take a lot of maintenance, like your old car. The most important things in life they don't teach us in school; relationships and finances. One thing that I read that I thought was profound is that you are never staying parallel in your relationship, you are either getting closer or moving apart. If you don't work at it you will move apart. I'd suggest finding some books on marriage and reading those. I'm still on my first marriage, and I learned lessons as I went. Nothing is beyond hope.
And losing your faith after such a small trial?  Read about Job or David in the Bible and what they had to endure. Maybe you should look at what God has still blessed you with instead of focusing on the one thing that YOU lost. Free will bro. God didn't do this to you.
Sorry if I'm being harsh. Maybe it's what you need.

[Ponch ®]

And losing your faith after such a small trial?  Read about Job or David in the Bible and what they had to endure. Maybe you should look at what God has still blessed you with instead of focusing on the one thing that YOU lost. Free will bro. God didn't do this to you.
Sorry if I'm being harsh. Maybe it's what you need.

Translation: stop being such a pussy and move forward with your life. The grass is always greener...