Divorce!

[HANDM]

Here's my  ...
Did you cheat on her? Did she cheat on you? 

If she cheated on you, you wouldn't have to pay her jack shit since she initiated the dissolution of the marriage. If you cheated on her then you don't deserve jack shit because you initiated it

If there was no cheating on either part, then a 50/50 split is completely fair in the eyes of the law, get a good lawyer and go from there

Ive been with my woman for 26 years, 2 awesome kids and no marriage to f**k things up

[birdsandbees]

What he said.. and 34 years married for us. She was 18 and me 20 so the "too young" thing is out the window. Still letting me blow money on cars.

I wish you well... be well represented and don't use the kids as pawns. The only REAL advise I have.. the kids have nothing to do with YOUR situation. 

[Lennard]

A judge doesn't care about who cheated on who or any other reason for the divorce.

[Arigmaster]

A judge doesn't care about who cheated on who or any other reason for the divorce.

Very true... Depends on what state you live in. Many states including where I live are "50/50 No fault" when it comes to divorce. (Makes no difference who did what) However, You only have to follow the money. The Family court system thrives on the revenue of highly contested divorces. Each state has a collection system for child support. In turn, the Federal Government through Title IV-D will match what they collect. The court system profits and only a portion of the funds goes to single moms with deadbeat dads.

In reality... The court system wins, The Lawyers win, The GAL's win... And in most cases it's the Lawyers who inspire the divorcing couples to contest various things. This is especially vicious when children are involved. The system especially preys on that. It allows them to proclaim that it's in the best interest of the children. Total BS... The kids suffer more when the parents are drained of their assets, and when greed out weighs common sense. 50/50 no fault is just an illusion guys... If there is money to be made... They will get it out of you.

Those of you lucky enough to have found your one and only the first time around... Congrats! (I really mean that) Unfortunately there is still that percentage including myself that were not as successful. Marriage takes work and sacrifice and understanding. But it has to come from both people. Sometimes that doesn't happen.

I am thinking this thread should be moved to the off topic section since it's pretty much drifted away from a "Charger discussion". Troy?

[RallyeMike]

Before anyone gets married they should have to spend a day talking to a bunch of divorcees about what they saw and didn't see before taking the plunge. many minds would change.

[ws23rt]

Before anyone gets married they should have to spend a day talking to a bunch of divorcees about what they saw and didn't see before taking the plunge. many minds would change.

I agree with this.  Getting married is a much bigger deal than most consider at the time.
The huge problems with the gov. and laws is just an example of the issues.

The primary cause of divorce is -marriage-.

[Homerr]

I think people should get checked out for their emotional intelligence level.  My wife and I were both a bit low, but we've remedied that and are very happy together.

[ws23rt]

Most of the time it's the luck of the draw when meeting a mate for life person.  When the decision is being made it is usually with blinders to practical thinking.

[VegasCharger]

The primary cause of divorce is -marriage-.

Beat you to it in reply #7 page 1 of this thread 

Sorry to hear you are going through this as well. I hope it turns out well.

Number one cause for divorce is marriage.

[ws23rt]

The primary cause of divorce is -marriage-.

Beat you to it in reply #7 page 1 of this thread  

Sorry to hear you are going through this as well. I hope it turns out well

Number one cause for divorce is marriage.

Well--hmm--  I said it first in the 60s --

BTW I am single  (never married)  I have two great kids and two grand kids. All doing very well.  I am happy and have all the car stuff I wanted to bring with me to this point.
No debt and a great family life.

[VegasCharger]

Well--hmm--  I said it first in the 60s --

BTW I am single  (never married)  I have two great kids and two grand kids. All doing very well.  I am happy and have all the car stuff I wanted to bring with me to this point.
No debt and a great family life.

Well props to you then. 

I've said this a long time ago maybe in my early 20s when I knew I wasn't excited about getting married but not as far back as the 60s Maybe in the early 80s.

Like you I've never been married and I have zero debt, but unlike you I don't have kids.

Here's to a good life and to watching football on Sundays w/o interruptions or guilt lol. 

[Mopar Nut]

 

[alfaitalia]

Like it!!!

[tucknroll]

Good news! We just got back from the lawyer and she's settling for her half of the equity and 50/50 with the kids. Thank goodness she leaving my retirement and car alone. She just wants her money now and knows a court battle would just drag it out

[crj1968]

Good news! We just got back from the lawyer and she's settling for her half of the equity and 50/50 with the kids. Thank goodness she leaving my retirement and car alone. She just wants her money now and knows a court battle would just drag it out

She is leaving money behind? That be strange behavior for a woman. Must be in some kind of hurry.   

[bigdsul]

Remember that the lawyers get theirs before anyone else does. Going that route costs on average of 40 thousand dollars.

If you guys can stay amicable and agree on everything go the better route of using a paralegal who specializes in divorce.

I went that route a while back and we both came away with an equal share and we didn't go bankrupt in the process. We spent a little over 1200 dollars which is far better than the alternative could ever be.

[ECS]

Marriage is not the problem!  It's the simplistic attitude people have when making choices in life.  Treat the important decisions with the respect they deserve and things work out just fine.

PROVERBS 22:3 - A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.

[crj1968]

Marriage is not the problem!  It's the simplistic attitude people have when making choices in life.  Treat the important decisions with the respect they deserve and things work out just fine.

PROVERBS 22:3 - A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.

Truth. 
Back in the day you had to have your act together by the time you were 13. (not our generation, but our parents /grandparents) 


What I have seen with my daughters friends who are getting married at 20-22, is that they are completely ignoring the advice of their parents, and having marriages fall apart in a matter of months. Crawling back home and crying "Dad, you were right, he is a total douche."