one reason to not get married

[ht4spd307]

well i'll be the son you never had  and you can leave your charger to me daddy when you die

[1974dodgecharger]

both have their positives guys ghee......no need to argue with peoples personal lives here.

[Lennard]

both have their positives guys ghee......no need to argue with peoples personal lives here.

Opinions are like a**holes, everybody has one. 

[Mike DC]

           

[303 Mopar]

It takes two to have a good marriage but only one to get divorced.  Congrats to those who have a successful marriage, found their "soul-mate", and all that but its not for me.

Here is another example of "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned".

http://www.ebay.com/itm/1972-Plymouth-Barracuda-/151946765307?vxp=mtr&nma=true&si=k0plgYlRSc1FehowquSoEhAO3c0%253D&orig_cvip=true&rt=nc&_trksid=p2047675.l2557

[ragin sonny]

I know a guy that bought his wife a set of tits, she soon divorced him, and he was left with the payment book. he said he didn't even get visitation right' :smilielol:s

[cbrestorations]

my gf knows nothing about cars nor does she care, but she knows i love them and she enjoys going to car shows even though she has no idea what she's looking at. she always buys me charger nic nacs cuz thats an easy gift for me. i tried talking her into something halfway cool for her first car and all she wanted was a newer style vw beetle cuz its cute, ugly dorky piece of crap that would ruin the appearance of the chargers at the house. even tried talking her into a classic mustang cuz all girls like that...nope beetle. so now i have a damn dorky beetle in front of my house. i may get married...but then ide have to stare at that damn beetle...

[polywideblock]

                               

                                                   someone?      once said  " nothing is forever " 

                           thought I'd found my soul mate   , but after 22 years she decided to change the rules 

       for all you happy for 15 years etc guys, I hope it lasts     . but id keep my eyes open , they can turn on you in a heartbeat   

[RallyeMike]

Alternately it just takes a little bit of elbow grease to remove spray paint. There is some guy out there with new 68 that has seen the upside to becoming unmarried.

[TruckDriver]

I don't understand marriage and long term relationships period.  How do you not get sick of someone, anyone, if they're around you for more than 5 minutes?  That's how I've always felt, and no pair of tits has ever tempted me into feeling any different...

Its called love, maybe some day you will find it!!  

Never loved anything my whole life; maybe the car?  I don't know what love is, but I have a feeling many other people don't either: enter America's divorce rate.  I congratulate those of you who have experienced otherwise...

I turn 52 in a few weeks, and yes I was married for 10 years, but to make a long story short, I was young, and married for the wrong reasons. We actually never dated even. Was a drunken night full of sex and yeah........ We never divorced sooner due to being afraid to tell our families we screwed up after they both tried to stop it before we got married.

Anyway, only good thing to come out of it is my 2 kids. But technically I never had a real girlfriend yet, only a few dates here and there, and nothing since 2007. In the end, all the women I went out with only wanted one thing, money (reason why I no longer have Charger's). It has made me a VERY bitter person, and I have very little trust anymore, specially when it comes to most women. At my age now, I honestly don't think I am even datable no more being I never yet had a real relationship, never cuddled yet, never felt love from anyone other then my parents and boys. Most women don't even wanna be friends, so I must put out a certain vibe I'm not aware of now.  I'm even afraid to ask for a date, so yeah. I just keep to myself in my apartment now.

[DAY CLONA]

Sounds like most of you guys had a bad Divorce lawyer (no such thing as a good lawyer!) to lose almost, it not everything...after 17+ years of marriage my old lady decided she was out to "seek another"....45 days later she was divorced, out the door with the clothes on her back, her new car, and new boy friend,...I kept the house, the 401K, bank accounts, the kid, the toys...she had what she wanted, now she lives with "Mr Romantic" in Texas, in a trailer park


FYI, my entire divorce cost me $400...Pro Se'



Mike

[birdsandbees]

Sounds like many need to quite picking up "girlfriends" in bars that they know nothing about. I've dated mine since she was 15, me 17. Married at 18 and 20 (my Super Bee was our wedding procession car). 33 1/2 years later and we're still "growing up" together.

Hell when I stripped down my car last month and was getting ready to send it to paint I told her I wasn't going to bother having them replace the drivers side floor pan and rear frame leaf spring attaches (which will end up = trunk pan) that we "patch panelled in 1989 and they still all work fine but of course don't look factory. She told me "don't be stupid... you've gone this far, do EVERYTHING it needs and you'll never be second guessing yourself" ! 

Seems I got one of the rare ones... 

[C5X DAYTONA]

Sounds like most of you guys had a bad Divorce lawyer (no such thing as a good lawyer!) to lose almost, it not everything...after 17+ years of marriage my old lady decided she was out to "seek another"....45 days later she was divorced, out the door with the clothes on her back, her new car, and new boy friend,...I kept the house, the 401K, bank accounts, the kid, the toys...she had what she wanted, now she lives with "Mr Romantic" in Texas, in a trailer park


FYI, my entire divorce cost me $400...Pro Se'



Mike

Too Funny,  you and I must of had the same attorney.    She got her car, cloths and a few house furnishings.     Oh an her debt.   She wasn't cheating, she was stealing money from her job.    My lawyer fee's were $600.. And my lawyer represented us both....  When I told her I'd pay for her lawyer that I chose she said ok.   My jaw hit the floor. 

[C5X DAYTONA]

Sounds like many need to quite picking up "girlfriends" in bars that they know nothing about. I've dated mine since she was 15, me 17. Married at 18 and 20 (my Super Bee was our wedding procession car). 33 1/2 years later and we're still "growing up" together.

Hell when I stripped down my car last month and was getting ready to send it to paint I told her I wasn't going to bother having them replace the drivers side floor pan and rear frame leaf spring attaches (which will end up = trunk pan) that we "patch panelled in 1989 and they still all work fine but of course don't look factory. She told me "don't be stupid... you've gone this far, do EVERYTHING it needs and you'll never be second guessing yourself" ! 

Seems I got one of the rare ones... 

I met my X at a car show.  She had a 340 Challenger.   She turned out to be a peach..   Yes, you got one of the rare ones.    But I got me one of those now too.   8 years now and all is wonderful. 

[tippytoe]

if you've got your head screwed on at all the first thing to do when "the shit  starts to hit the fan"  is "sell " them to a "trusted "friend at a greatly reduced price    . bill of sale and all   

you will note I said "trusted"  friend , don't  think this wouldn't work with an acquaintance or work colleague 

it worked for me but      they(court ) never saw a car/parts  or boat cause I didn't own them any more       

                             and bills of sale were used to calculate "wealth" so she got screwed  as well   

Did that myself when I went through the big D. So glad I did !

[Mike DC]

Sounds like many need to quite picking up "girlfriends" in bars that they know nothing about. I've dated mine since she was 15, me 17. Married at 18 and 20 (my Super Bee was our wedding procession car). 33 1/2 years later and we're still "growing up" together.

Hell when I stripped down my car last month and was getting ready to send it to paint I told her I wasn't going to bother having them replace the drivers side floor pan and rear frame leaf spring attaches (which will end up = trunk pan) that we "patch panelled in 1989 and they still all work fine but of course don't look factory. She told me "don't be stupid... you've gone this far, do EVERYTHING it needs and you'll never be second guessing yourself" !  2thumbs

Seems I got one of the rare ones...

My friend married his high school GF like that.  They had been joined at the hip since they met.  When they got married after 6-7 years everyone thought that was 'til death do they part.  

But nope, by their late 20s she was cheating & they ended up divorced.    

[ws23rt]

Divorce is caused by marriage.
A natural attraction that lasts does not need a "marriage" ritual. The ceremony is a ritual that frequently just adds a level of commitment that is unnatural and sometimes oppressive.---It's that much harder to split when the mistake is realized.
I know many long term relationships that work because of compatibility without the need for the cultural/social push for a ceremony.

[dyslexic teddybear]

Interesting.

Seems the key is to get the right one. When you do, never let go.

Unfortunately, the first one for 25+ years didn't work out according to plan. 4 awesome kids, some good times, some not so good. And then she just decided she didn't want the responsibility any more. Last 8 years......living in hell would have been an improvement. I was not perfect and I'll own what I did wrong. Vermont is a no fault state. I got the kids, house, etc. She got a separate 45 acre parcel of land worth decent coin. Didn't even have a lawyer. Once the question of the kids staying with me was settled, they would not go with her to her new boyfriend.....just divide some assets. Though I will say the look on her face when her lawyer confirmed she also was liable for half of our debt was priceless.

The right one?

Will be 9 years this Feb 27. Everybody's heard of love at first sight.....and then there's lust at first sight.....for m'lady and I....it was trust at first sight. We have almost nothing in common, share almost no interests, yet get along great. I felt within a few hours of meeting her I could trust her, and almost 9 years has proven that out. 10% of the time we irritate each other, but trust never wavers. Biting my tongue for that 10% is a small price to pay.

Plus....she's kinkier then I am.   We're good. Real good.

[polywideblock]

      met mine when she was 14 I was 17 ,neither of us dated anyone else through school just seems to be made for each outer .

    then after 22years  she decided that I needed a makeover , the house wasn't good enough ,I had no ambition (same job for 25 years ,I thought that was called security   ) etc etc 
 
      and then I came home from work to a empty (literally) house, she'd moved to the other end of Australia  and id payed for it without knowing (she hadn't payed any bills for at least 6 months and was hiding the letters of demand )

                                           now I'm better off without her, can do what I want when I want     

                and I'm only looking for a replacement  casually ( not trying) if one comes along good ,if not I'm not going to die from it     

   

[ws23rt]

When I was just exploring my independence I met a man hater. She was wearing a disguise.
She became pregnant and vowed to raise the child and move on with her life.---NOT---
Some time later she asked me if I would be a sperm donor for one of her girlfriends as a favor --
After a long ugly and very expensive ordeal. (I nearly lost my house and all I worked for).
She has since passed on and that gave me relief from constant financial aggravation and threats.
The up side is she is gone and I can enjoy my life with my son and his new wife. The down side is many years of emotional aggravation has left me single and with scars.
Our system gives the female a leg up in these situations and we males need to learn how it works before puberty.

I am left to wonder about the --government application of who they step on the hardest--when it comes to gay marriages that don't work out?
Do they look at the couple and decide which one looks like the money maker?

BTW marriage in the legal sense is not enough for your life and assets to not become combined. I spent many thousands of dollars and years of grief to learn that.

[stripedelete]

When I was just exploring my independence I met a man hater. She was wearing a disguise.
She became pregnant and vowed to raise the child and move on with her life.---NOT---
Some time later she asked me if I would be a sperm donor for one of her girlfriends as a favor --
After a long ugly and very expensive ordeal. (I nearly lost my house and all I worked for).
She has since passed on and that gave me relief from constant financial aggravation and threats.
The up side is she is gone and I can enjoy my life with my son and his new wife. The down side is many years of emotional aggravation has left me single and with scars.
Our system gives the female a leg up in these situations and we males need to learn how it works before puberty.

I am left to wonder about the --government application of who they step on the hardest--when it comes to gay marriages that don't work out?
Do they look at the couple and decide which one looks like the money maker?

BTW marriage in the legal sense is not enough for your life and assets to not become combined. I spent many thousands of dollars and years of grief to learn that.

Sounds like a bad situation, but, I'm having trouble following you.  Could you dumb it down a little for me?

[DAY CLONA]

Sounds like most of you guys had a bad Divorce lawyer (no such thing as a good lawyer!) to lose almost, it not everything...after 17+ years of marriage my old lady decided she was out to "seek another"....45 days later she was divorced, out the door with the clothes on her back, her new car, and new boy friend,...I kept the house, the 401K, bank accounts, the kid, the toys...she had what she wanted, now she lives with "Mr Romantic" in Texas, in a trailer park


FYI, my entire divorce cost me $400...Pro Se'



Mike

Too Funny,  you and I must of had the same attorney.    She got her car, cloths and a few house furnishings.     Oh an her debt.   She wasn't cheating, she was stealing money from her job.    My lawyer fee's were $600.. And my lawyer represented us both....  When I told her I'd pay for her lawyer that I chose she said ok.   My jaw hit the floor. 

Pro Se'....means self representation, I also represented my wife at the preceding, boy the Judge didn't like that!....the $400 was filing fees with the court
I found out the hard way that the old saying "You treat a woman like a Queen, she'll shit all over you, you treat a woman like shit, she'll treat you like a King", has quite a bit of truth to it

[TruckDriver]

Sounds like most of you guys had a bad Divorce lawyer (no such thing as a good lawyer!) to lose almost, it not everything...after 17+ years of marriage my old lady decided she was out to "seek another"....45 days later she was divorced, out the door with the clothes on her back, her new car, and new boy friend,...I kept the house, the 401K, bank accounts, the kid, the toys...she had what she wanted, now she lives with "Mr Romantic" in Texas, in a trailer park


FYI, my entire divorce cost me $400...Pro Se'



Mike

We did our divorce Pro Se' too. And it actually went very well. I lost the cars well before we slit up. I sold them trying to save a failed marriage, trying to keep her happy 

[Lord Warlock]

Celebrating my 31st anniversary tomorrow.  In a strange way, wife is out of town travelling on business, I'm sitting at home by myself, will be one of the first times we've been apart for our anniversary.  Met my wife when I was 17, started dating her in High school, stopped dating a while, then started again when I went to college.  31 years together officially married, 38 years if you count the years we dated before making it official. 

Getting married was one of the smartest decisions I ever made, and it has paid high dividends over the years. She understands my car hobby, has never bitched about the charger parked in the garage the whole time we've been together, even though we never actually drove it except when we were dating.  She has developed an "attitude" on my hoarder attitude with my other cars, which usually never got sold after I paid them off, I'd just get a newer one and roll the old one into the backyard somewhere.

Even though I love my wife and do not believe she'd ever do me wrong with the charger, please explain why I have such an aversion to putting her name on the car title.  Facing health issues where it makes sense to put all assets in both of our names, just to simplify things, but twice now I've gotten to the DMV to add her name to the title and ended up not doing it.  Just feels to me like I'm stabbing my friend in the back to add her name to the car title.   Only once in our wedded life did I worry about her hidden feelings about the charger, when I was tempted to walk out after we had our first kid 26 years ago.  Since then, no worries...but still having probs adding her to the title.  She can have it once i'm gone.  But i'm sure she'd appreciate the cash instead, she can always keep the 2010 challenger as a reminder, and a dependable 2nd car.

[41husk]

My wife got every penny I had, the house we lived in and 1/2 of my retirement.  I got the rental property and all my cars,  I am making more pennies