Buisness Closes , and I feel like the last 9 plus years have all been a waste

[moparstuart]

 Well with the horrible economy and not having deep pockets I have lost my buisness .

  Very depressing , feeling like a failure and  that the last 9 plus years have all been a huge waste of time and money .

  I have lost all my saving and most of my muscle car collection trying to hold on to this place  .

  Justifying it as i was building for the future and for my family .  Now everything is lost should have called it quits 3-4 years ago but its a hard decision to make when you have so much time and money infested .  You feel like your damned if you do and damned is you dont. 

   Sorry for the heavy story just needed to get some of the frustration out  and you guys are like family and always great listeners  .   


 

[Ghoste]

Sorry to learn this Stu, hang in there buddy.

[nvrbdn]

this friggin sucks. sorry to hear stu. we had a store/gift shop locally here that we made work for 4 years. made enough to just keep the doors open. it was an experience for us, but we lost thousands when we gave up and had to call it quits. good luck stu. stay tough.

[JB400]

Sad to hear, buddy  Times are tough for everyone. I've seen a few businesses here go out here as well.  Some of them have been around for decades.  We even had a grocery store go out.


 I don't know what the future brings, but hope it works out in your favor.

[200MPH]

Sorry to hear this Stu

[twodko]

You are NOT a failure buddy! You made that business work for 9 years! That says a lot about your character, work ethic and tenacity. Like your family and friends I'm damn proud of you.

[Fred]

Sorry to hear this Stu

Me too. We all work to damn hard in this life to come away with nothing. Stay strong.

[Lord Warlock]

What type of business was it?  I'm sorry to hear about someone else going through financial hardship, the economy of the last 4 years has been disastrous for many.  I was out of work for almost 2 years, finally found a temp/contract job that lasted six months, and now I'm out of work again.  At least the last six months was enough to carry me and the family over for another year.  In my case most of the difficulty is that i'm not willing to relocate for new jobs, i'm in the strongest market area of the state, and the wife works but now she's at risk of losing her job as well.  

One of my close friends in the area has run a auto interior shop for the last 20 years, and while he never got rich at it, it kept him going.  But the depressed economy killed his business off in the last 3 years, and he finally broke down, closed his shop and took a job a local car dealership.  We met when we both took a car sales job when i first came to Jacksonville.

Again, sorry to hear about your situation.  The past 9 years wasn't a waste, it let you do what you wanted to do and make a living while doing so.  I wish i could do the same.  Maybe things will change in the future and the economy will pick up, isn't it strange that while republicans were in office, even though we had bad years, they always turned it around in 6 months to a year, but with democrats in charge 7% unemployment is the new normal?  I was employed through rough times before, but never such long layovers between jobs as in the last 4 years.  (I am a software QA analyst....meaning I Test software before it goes to end users....the government could have used people like me before their healthcare fiasco)

[Daytona R/T SE]

Damn, Stuart.

I'm sorry to read that.

[69rtse4spd]

Sorry to hear this also, you or anyone else can come here to blow off steam anytime he or she wants. We may not be good counsels but damn cheaper (well some of us are pretty cheap). cheaper. You know we are here for you & your family.   

[ws23rt]

Sorry to hear this.  When one door closes others open.  You now may have opportunities that your business would not have allowed

[A383Wing]

Damn, Stuart.

I'm sorry to read that.

Yea..those were my words, exactly

[XH29N0G]

I am really sorry to hear this news.  I don't know if you want another one telling you to hang in there and try again when the opportunity presents itself.  The way I see it, you made it work for a long time and should be able to make it work again some time in the future.

[chargerboy69]

Stu, I am sorry to hear this. If you do not have something lined up already, hopefully you will be able to find something soon.

[charge69]

Really sorry to hear this! I hope this is just the beginning of a new and exciting chapter in your life!

[67440chrg]

Im sorry to hear about this Stuart. You will make it. I was self employed for about 5 years back in the 90s and had to find a way to pay taxes and payroll and close my doors. All I got out of it was knowledge. Now I work for someone else and let them do the worrying. Again I am really sorry to hear about this. If you need to unwind and have a beer let me know im in belton.

[moparstuart]

Thanks everyone for the support  , I have been in auto parts sales all my life and already have several offers so no worries about a job . My wife has a great job so that is why i was able to stick it out so long .   I didnt take home a check for the last three years , so working for free sucked .  It will be nice to be bringing home a regular check again .  Just really depressing losing all my buisness partner and I worked so hard for .  

     

[mrsskip68]

You are NOT a failure buddy! You made that business work for 9 years! That says a lot about your character, work ethic and tenacity. Like your family and friends I'm damn proud of you.

I agree!!! Keep your chin up and remember, god only gives us what he thinks we can handle!

[skip68]

Sorry Mr Padasso.          trying and failing is not a failure.  The failure would've been never trying.    The economy being in the toilet is not a failure on your part Stu.    

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.  

[NHCharger]

Sorry to hear about this Stu. I was self-employed for 20 years. Was a few months away from losing everything back in the 90-93 recession so I know the emotional roller coaster you are on. Glad to see that you already have something lined up.

[Patronus]

Im glad to hear you've made a change.

[dyslexic teddybear]

Very sorry......

Self employed all of my life, and the last few years.....well I know much of what you are going thru.

Not a waste at all.

[1970Moparmann]

That really sucks Stu....... Life throws many punches on our short journey.  

Keep your head up and things work out for good people like you!

[Dino]

You didn't fail Stu, you tried until there was no more trying, that's anything but failing. 

[Charger-Bodie]

Wow Stuart this is terrible news. Did not see that coming. Hang in there buddy. Really sucks, but now a new chapter will begin.

[tan top]

Wow Stuart this is terrible news. Did not see that coming. Hang in there buddy. Really sucks, but now a new chapter will begin.

oh crikey  , Stuart !!    sorry to hear this !! your not a failure !  never good when  anything like this happens , its a downer when you have put soo much time effort money ,  getting a business  up & running & being successful , at the same time when things are not going to plan , running at a loss or just to break even ! its damaging to your health worry !  stress !  etc ,  your mind is taken up with this stuff all the time , not good !  yes running your own / have  your own business  , !  great  sense of achievement  etc  at the same time lot to be said for , just working for a employer   ,  leaving work agro at the gate at clocking off / home time  etc  & taking pay check at end of the week !  ,
not sure where i'm going with this , but  , your be ok Stuart !!  new chapter !  good luck ,  

[moparstuart]

Wow Stuart this is terrible news. Did not see that coming. Hang in there buddy. Really sucks, but now a new chapter will begin.

oh crikey  , Stuart !!    sorry to hear this !! your not a failure !  never good when  anything like this happens , it a downer when you have put soo much time effort money , it getting a business  up & running & being successful , at the same time when things are not going to plan , running at a loss or just to break even m its damaging to your health worry stress etc your mind it taken up with this stuff all the time , not good !  yes running your own / have  your own business  great , sense of achievement  etc  at the same time lot to be said for , just working for a employer   ,  leaving work agro at the gate at clocking off / home time  etc  & taking pay check at end of the week !  ,
not sure where i'm going with this , but  , your be ok Stuart !!  new chapter !  good luck , 

Thank you and yes the stress from this place did cause me to get shingles really bad 2 1/2 years ago and that led to fluid on my heart causing me to have a heart attack , the heart attack was going to happen because of a blockage but the stress greatly sped it up .   Now a diabetic also with high colesterol and blood pressure too it is time for a change . 
   

[41husk]

Damn buddy, I hate to here about the business, but you are far from being a loser.  You have helped a great many people on here including myself.  I consider myself lucky to call you my friend!!!!  hang in there!

[maxwellwedge]

You are NOT a failure buddy! You made that business work for 9 years! That says a lot about your character, work ethic and tenacity. Like your family and friends I'm damn proud of you.

x2 Son. Hang in there....Family and Health are the 2 most important things and both will help you to move forward.  

[resq302]

Stu,

Sorry to hear about this.  But like others have said, you are far from a failure.  Look at the Birdible and other cars you built!  That alone makes you a success!  You also ran a business for 9 years when a lot of others could not have made it last probably for half that time.  This economy sucks big time.  If anyone has failed, it is the government, not you, which led it to get to this.

Main thing is that you are alive and well and jobs may come and go.  My wife might be shortly getting laid off in the next month or two so we too have been feeling the stress but things will change and improve.  Things happen for a reason.  Who knows, maybe there was something bad that was going to happen to the salvage yard?  Fire, DEP come in and find things you weren't aware of, etc? 

If you need to talk or just vent, we are all here for ya buddy!   

[Dave Kanofsky]

Sorry to hear that Stu, change is never easy, forced change really sucks.

Be strong in your faith as you are in the Lord's care.  There is a reason and a season for everything this life has to offer.  That season has passed, now onto your new mission.

[cdr]

HEY MR STU,i do understand having to close a business down,we learn from life, & our past is what makes us who we are today,YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE !!!

CHARLIE

[projectanimal]

Sorry to hear this Stu.... A lot of that going around.   Keep your chin up and focus on the bigger and brighter things that wait for us all. 

[bull]

Disappointing for sure but maybe a bit of a relief too? Sometimes you want something so badly but once it's gone (and with it the stress) you don't miss it.

[DC_1]

Disappointing for sure but maybe a bit of a relief too? Sometimes you want something so badly but once it's gone (and with it the stress) you don't miss it.

I know it doesn't help but I have felt your pain and more .......In 2008 my marriage fell apart thanks to a cheating wife that I use to walk around on egg shells to please. After the bitter divorce started she cleaned out my businees account at the end of the month. That caused my payroll and rent checks to bounce. I fought to keep everything together but eventual defaulted.  Lost the biz, the house, the truck, the boat, but somehow managed to hang on to the Charger.

After losing everything and stressing for months I finally felt relief.  I am now in a better place mentally and I am slowing getting back on my feet. It's been a hard road but I am stronger because of it. 

Only advice i can give you.....Time for some new goals and dreams!

Wish you all the best my friend!!

[skip68]

Stu, I can put you to work out here in Vegas.    You will still be stripping..................................just not cars.         
Call me.        

[TruckDriver]

Sorry to hear this Stu

[A383Wing]

Stu, I can put you to work out here in Vegas.    You will still be stripping..................................just not cars.         
Call me.        

now there is a "visual" 

[69_500]

Sorry to hear this Stu. Making it work for 9 years is not a waste it's something to hang your hat on in today's time. With all the upstarts that are out there not many make it more than a year or two. Hope you find something that you enjoy. Nothing worse than having a job but it being something that you do not enjoy.

[ws23rt]

Stu, I can put you to work out here in Vegas.    You will still be stripping..................................just not cars.         
Call me.        

now there is a "visual" 

It hurts the viewing screen in my head

[Fred]

Stu, I can put you to work out here in Vegas.    You will still be stripping..................................just not cars.         
Call me.        

now there is a "visual" 

It hurts the viewing screen in my head

After what I've been put through and what's been done to me.........nothing hurts mine.

[The70RT]

I thought I had id it bad lately (the reason i haven't been on here much lately) This makes me so sad right now.... Hang in there buddy, praying for you all the way around.

[moparstuart]

thank you to everyone for the good words and advice 

[DadsCharger00]

good luck stu and take care of yourself! health comes first for you and for your families sake! chin up and forward ho!

[ODZKing]

Sorry to hear Stu. At least you tried.
What was the business BTW?

[Indygenerallee]

Sorry to hear Stu, I know how you feel, I closed my Towing business after 5 years and I felt like a complete failure but I realized I was not going anywhere fast with it, Your not a failure! You gotta try it or you would never know for sure! Keep your chin up! 

[TUFCAT]

Sounds like you did the right thing. It takes a strong person to realize that! Good Luck. 

[Just 6T9 CHGR]

Chin up man  Ya done good for the past 9.  Now is the time for a new chapter for the next 9! 

[PlainfieldCharger]

Sorry to hear this. I have many friends who have fallen since 08. I don't post much, but I read quite a bit and your knowledge is unreal. Many here look to you, I know I have. Your path has just changed..good luck

[bill440rt]

So sorry to hear this Stu.
You are FAR from a failure! Most businesses fail within the first year. Yours lasted 9. That sir, is success. 
You'll have good things coming your way before you know it. 

[68X426]

Sounds like you did the right thing. It takes a strong person to realize that! Good Luck. 

Agreed.

I'll add that you are in no position today to judge if the 9 years was a failure. You have to go forward 2 or 3 years and then reflect back on those 9. So go easy on yourself.

My two cents: you have to have immediate amnesia about this, or you'll just be in an endless downward spiral. Just like a ballplayer who strikes out, you got to forget it and be prepared for your next time at bat. Amnesia, now. It works.

[68X426]

Stu, this guy is a failure. Not you.

[resq302]

I don't know about that.  Looks like the guy got the board to move inward a little. 

[hemigeno]

Stuart,

I'm very sorry to hear this news, and also know firsthand how difficult decisions like that can be for a business owner.  You've had to make a tough call, and at least that part of the guesswork is over.  Now, you get to the "adventure" part where the next chapter is written.  Even if you land a great job, it can still be hard not to wonder "What If..??".  You did your best, and shouldn't blame yourself for factors over which you had no control. 

Hope things work out perfect for you and your family.

[Budnicks]

So so sorry to hear & read this, keep your chin up, the bad economy has effected many people, your not a failure, you just moved on to something else, I wish you & your family the best of luck in your new adventures & a very Merry Christmas & a Happy New year, enjoy your new job, enjoy a paycheck & don't be too tough on yourself... I've started & closed 3 businesses over the years, sometimes it's just for the better, sometime when one door closes, another opens... 

[rick.d]

Sorry to hear this Stu. There is something to be said for those who have the guts and vision to go out and start a business. Hard work, dedication, it takes an above average person. Thats you. You can't pick the fruit if you don't go out on the limb, right?  Now you just got to find another tree to climb.

[Mytur Binsdirti]

That's rough and having helth complications from it doesn't help. Best wishes to you and your family.

[Fred]

Stu, this guy is a failure. Not you.

I thought he's a helmet tester. This job pays extremely well. 

[Ram07]

Hey Stu...if it makes a difference, you have more balls than I ever had, you gave it a shot, followed a dream ...and it's just the times we live in I guess that made it not work....you are far from a failure, or someone who thinks it was time wasted...hats off to you, and all the best....



But, that being said, and ya, you dont know me....but still...I follow threads....so get the trans in and enjoy your ride again, huh?

[Mopar Nut]

Stay tough, you might have lost material things, but you have the best things in your life, the wife and kids.

[A383Wing]

And us.....

[ACUDANUT]

That's rough and having helth complications from it doesn't help. Best wishes to you and your family.

Well said.  
I can't believe it's been 5 weeks and I just recently found out about this (days ago). Hang in there Stu.

[General_01]

Can't believe I missed this. Sorry to hear this Stu. I agree with everyone. Keep your chin up and just think of everything you learned about running a business. This will only help you in the future. Gaining knowledge is never a waste of time.

Good luck on your next endeavor. Glad you already have some options.

[moparstuart]

thanks guy not been on alot lately as i'm back to work selling parts for a new company in liberty Missouri , So no internet time at work anymore

[Budnicks]

thanks guy not been on alot lately as i'm back to work selling parts for a new company in liberty Missouri , So no internet time at work anymore

good luck & best wishes in your new endeavor