RANT, ABOUT RANTS!!! by Thick skinned Skip68(got milk)

[nh_mopar_fan]

Speaking of MUCH MUCH MUCH more important things, how's it going over there?

[Orange_Crush]

WELL, now that I am done defending myself about that, I want to add something to what Orange_Crush said:

"The fact alone that she was able to save up 3800 bucks making what they do impresses the hell out of me.  It shows me that she is willing to make sacrifices to get what she wants.  That's a VERY good thing.  I believe that she is SERIOUSLY misguided though and, while I'm not holding out much hope that anything we're saying will actually get through to her, I'm holding out a tiny glimmer of hope that she is smart enough to see that EVERYONE is telling her the same thing and she may start to change things around in her life.

If I didn't think there were SOME smarts there and if I thought it was hopeless, I wouldn't bother."


I do read everything posted and yes I do have a good head on my shoulders. I'm not bragging at all but I graduated and was in the top 5 in my class. I DO realize that a lot of people are telling me pretty much the same thing and YES I have paid attention to that.   :yesnod:Yes, I have made many sacrifices.....It's weird how you pretty much got it spot on. I do have a question about how you think I am misguided though, what did you mean by that? I am not taking offense to it, I just wanted a little better explaination. I have came up with a plan that I have explained to friends and family to get feedback (about what options I have). They tell me that I had already gotten off to a good start. I have been on my own since I was 18, not too long, but hey I have managed to come this far without getting arrested, pregnant, married and divorced, into alcohol, into drugs, without getting any shut off notice or eviction notice, without moving back in with my parents, etc etc.  ;DI think that is a good start. Sure things aren't the way I want them to be but who honestly has what they need or want? Paris Hilton maybe...

But in closing,  the way some of you have treated me crossed the line. Why don't you stop and think about one thing....what would you have done and how would you have felt if something you said to someone made them commit suicide or something???  

Let me make this crystal clear, I am not suicidal at all, it was just a reference. I am, however, hurt by the way I have been treated.

98neongirl

I was gonna back away from this topic but, since you asked, I'll tell you.  You want to know how I think you're misguided (actually, what I said was "seriously misguided")?

You yourself are giving me all the ammo I need.  

-You graduated at the top of your class but you are not going to college (misguided).  If you really did graduate where you say you did, obtaining a scholarship (BOTH academic and need-based) should not be a problem.

-You manage to save a lot of money (commendable) but you want to spend it on a car that (believe me) will not even be a mediocre second car.

-You are in serious need of funds but you can't seem to find a job...even though there are plenty of jobs out there.  This tells me that you are aiming way too high.  Have you tried Home Depot, Lowes, Wal-Mart, K-Mart, Target, McDonalds, Taco Bell, ANY retail establishment...etc?   So you can't pick your fiancee up.  Get him a bike or let him walk.

-I'm sure you deeply love your fiancee, but your job as his future wife is to not let him stagnate in the job he's in.  No matter how long he works at his place of employment, he'll never advance.  If you don't believe in him enough to push him to do better, then you really need to be with someone else, just my two cents.  I'm sure he's a great guy, but a great guy with no ambition is a great guy who will never amount to anything more than the dirt poor guy that everyone likes.  Do you know what the biggest reason for divorce in the US today is?  Money...not infidelity...MONEY.  Just remember that.


As far as someone committing suicide because of what I say....THAT would be a problem with THEIR head and not MY mouth.

[98neongirl]

YGBFSM.

If something someone said in this forum causes someone to do themselves in, they're got bigger issues. Honestly....

and

As far as someone committing suicide because of what I say....THAT would be a problem with THEIR head and not MY mouth.

You guys aren't listening, it was just an example. Haven't you ever heard of Columbine??? I was just saying that what someone may say to another person can have horrible results. It does not mean the "victim" is mental. It means they are alone, desperate, scared, and they think the only way to end it all is to take their own life. So don't just shrug it off as if it doesn't matter. I wasn't directing it at you, Orange Crush, that is why there was a space in between the two sentences. I was starting adifferent topic, directing it to practically everyone and not just any one person in particular. I added the "crystal clear" part because I know that some of the members would automatically assume that I was referring to myself when I clearly wasn't.


I don't think that I am seriously misguided. I don't think misguided is really the right term. Yes I graduated high school in the top 5 but that doesn't mean that I wanted to dive right into college. I wanted to takea few months to make a plan about what I wanted to do, and I researched different jobs that I would like to do. Then I looked at classes that a Community College offers that related to my ideal jobs, but a lot of them conflicted (taught on the same day at overlapping times) so I was forced to make a decision when I really wanted to take 3 out of the 5 I chose, but the way they were set up I couldn't. I was working at the time 40 hrs a week which didn't give me much spare time to take the classes, let alone one. I can take them now but they aren't being offered at this time. As time went by, other things came into my life and priorities changed and somehow here I am. I have never had a problem getting a job before, the problem now is that there aren't any decent jobs in my area, I have applied at tons of different places, including most of those you gave as examples (that are in my area anyway, not all of them are but I get the general gist...) I can't make people hire me, I wish I could but I can't. I have went to countless interviews and I just haven't been hired. I don't know why I haven't been hired, I do have a good job record and everything is accurate on my resume'. Out of all of the jobs I have worked, I have only quit one and it was a pretty good reason for me to (I really don't want to go there) and I believe that I called in maybe three total days for being sick. In my area, employers are picky in who they hire because of the whole state economy/high unemployment thing. The only real job I have been offered (and have been doing) is running errands for an elderly woman that a member of my mother's church knows. Regarding my fiance, we both know and accept that we can't afford to get married soon. We will when we are ready.....that has never been an issue. He has goals as well, he has had better luck in going to night school to acheive his career choice. I figure when he is where he wants to be, then I will continue with starting my career. I have a way of making sure he has what he needs and putting myself aside, it's hard to explain. Well, I get what you are saying but I am not really aiming high, there just aren't as many jobs as you may think. Sure I would love to move out of state and start with a clean slate but that isn't going to happen just yet. It is easier said that done, for sure!
98neongirl

[Ponch ®]

I don't think that I am seriously misguided. I don't think misguided is really the right term. Yes I graduated high school in the top 5 but that doesn't mean that I wanted to dive right into college. I wanted to takea few months to make a plan about what I wanted to do, and I researched different jobs that I would like to do. Then I looked at classes that a Community College offers that related to my ideal jobs, but a lot of them conflicted (taught on the same day at overlapping times) so I was forced to make a decision when I really wanted to take 3 out of the 5 I chose, but the way they were set up I couldn't. I was working at the time 40 hrs a week which didn't give me much spare time to take the classes, let alone one. I can take them now but they aren't being offered at this time. As time went by, other things came into my life and priorities changed and somehow here I am. I have never had a problem getting a job before, the problem now is that there aren't any decent jobs in my area, I have applied at tons of different places, including most of those you gave as examples (that are in my area anyway, not all of them are but I get the general gist...) I can't make people hire me, I wish I could but I can't. I have went to countless interviews and I just haven't been hired. I don't know why I haven't been hired, I do have a good job record and everything is accurate on my resume'. Out of all of the jobs I have worked, I have only quit one and it was a pretty good reason for me to (I really don't want to go there) and I believe that I called in maybe three total days for being sick. In my area, employers are picky in who they hire because of the whole state economy/high unemployment thing. The only real job I have been offered (and have been doing) is running errands for an elderly woman that a member of my mother's church knows. Regarding my fiance, we both know and accept that we can't afford to get married soon. We will when we are ready.....that has never been an issue. He has goals as well, he has had better luck in going to night school to acheive his career choice. I figure when he is where he wants to be, then I will continue with starting my career. I have a way of making sure he has what he needs and putting myself aside, it's hard to explain. Well, I get what you are saying but I am not really aiming high, there just aren't as many jobs as you may think. Sure I would love to move out of state and start with a clean slate but that isn't going to happen just yet. It is easier said that done, for sure!
98neongirl

Well, at least it seems you're both trying to improve yourselves. Still, be careful - ever heard of the term "Dreamkiller"?

[skip68]

Wow...isn't this nice of you Chuck.

Chuck you are not funny at all.   After reading your post you have done nothing but made yourself look like a jerk. If you think that this is so funny why can't you just keep it to yourself instead of poking fun and being a complete and total ass?   I have the right to vent/rant/whatever. Please, get off my back....All I was doing was seeing if anyone had ever been in a similar situation and I was looking for advice. You don't have to like me but why do you have to talk crap about me?  

WELL, now that I am done defending myself about that, I want to add something to what Orange_Crush said:

"The fact alone that she was able to save up 3800 bucks making what they do impresses the hell out of me.  It shows me that she is willing to make sacrifices to get what she wants.  That's a VERY good thing.  I believe that she is SERIOUSLY misguided though and, while I'm not holding out much hope that anything we're saying will actually get through to her, I'm holding out a tiny glimmer of hope that she is smart enough to see that EVERYONE is telling her the same thing and she may start to change things around in her life.

If I didn't think there were SOME smarts there and if I thought it was hopeless, I wouldn't bother."


I do read everything posted and yes I do have a good head on my shoulders. I'm not bragging at all but I graduated and was in the top 5 in my class. I DO realize that a lot of people are telling me pretty much the same thing and YES I have paid attention to that.   :yesnod:Yes, I have made many sacrifices.....It's weird how you pretty much got it spot on. I do have a question about how you think I am misguided though, what did you mean by that? I am not taking offense to it, I just wanted a little better explaination. I have came up with a plan that I have explained to friends and family to get feedback (about what options I have). They tell me that I had already gotten off to a good start. I have been on my own since I was 18, not too long, but hey I have managed to come this far without getting arrested, pregnant, married and divorced, into alcohol, into drugs, without getting any shut off notice or eviction notice, without moving back in with my parents, etc etc.  ;DI think that is a good start. Sure things aren't the way I want them to be but who honestly has what they need or want? Paris Hilton maybe...

But in closing,  the way some of you have treated me crossed the line. Why don't you stop and think about one thing....what would you have done and how would you have felt if something you said to someone made them commit suicide or something???  

Let me make this crystal clear, I am not suicidal at all, it was just a reference. I am, however, hurt by the way I have been treated.

98neongirl

  O.K. STOP!  Now you've gone to far. I'M JUST KIDDING.  My wife said the same thing when I met her(you are a jerk) But I made her like me.  The only reason I was doing all this is because I think we've all been there.  If you knew me better you would laugh too.  But you did keep this going    As well did I !  I don't want to get the wrong impression about you but I think I did. NOR do I want to give the wrong impression.  I'm sorry that I offended you,   but to be honest I started to tune you out.  BUT,  That doesn't give me the right to bag on you    Anyway, that's my a$$ kissing apology  I do agree with poking fun with you but not at you and for that I am sorry.  I may get some guy's here thinking I'm a puss now, But right is right.  I hope I get the chance to make fun of you again(WITH YOU LAUGHING) P.S. I had to commute over 2 hours everyday for almost 4 years. MAN that sucked!  You may have to do the same.

[98neongirl]

Apology accepted. I just wanted to point out that you were being really inappropriate... Matt doesn't need anyone to say anything for him. He doesn't really know about all this, I just wanted to get something that I wanted for a change. He gets anything he wants (his mom spoils him like you wouldn't believe)  That is what I thought was so unfair. I have never been handed anything. They bought him a car, paid for his night school, etc etc. My parents could never afford to do anything like that for me, and all I've ever wanted since I was young was a Charger (and no, it had nothing to do with the Dukes of Hazzard, I saw a '68 Charger and fell in "love" before I ever saw that show). You know the $3800 that we had to spend on everything with the Neon? That was money that I saved from taking cans and bottles back, taking loose change and putting it in the bank, and money that came from ebay sales. Matt didn't contribute a dime to it. All of that hard work saving it and we had to fix the car with it. It seemed so unfair at the time. I realize life has its ups and downs, but
sometimes I just want it to be different for a change.
98neongirl

[Orange_Crush]

Apology accepted. I just wanted to point out that you were being really inappropriate... Matt doesn't need anyone to say anything for him. He doesn't really know about all this, I just wanted to get something that I wanted for a change. He gets anything he wants (his mom spoils him like you wouldn't believe)  That is what I thought was so unfair. I have never been handed anything. They bought him a car, paid for his night school, etc etc. My parents could never afford to do anything like that for me, and all I've ever wanted since I was young was a Charger (and no, it had nothing to do with the Dukes of Hazzard, I saw a '68 Charger and fell in "love" before I ever saw that show). You know the $3800 that we had to spend on everything with the Neon? That was money that I saved from taking cans and bottles back, taking loose change and putting it in the bank, and money that came from ebay sales. Matt didn't contribute a dime to it. All of that hard work saving it and we had to fix the car with it. It seemed so unfair at the time. I realize life has its ups and downs, but
sometimes I just want it to be different for a change.
98neongirl

Hmmmm...

I thought you said he didn't have a car...or is it you that doesn't have the car?

[98neongirl]

We only have one car and we have to share it.

[skip68]

Hey 98neongirl,  Is the charger that you want to by still for sale?   If it is go back and try to make a deal with the guy, Payments, or maybe you could work it off.  Like help with yard work or cleaning his house ect... I've done that before.

[Just 6T9 CHGR]

The lady has had enough